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pink-daisey
05-02-09, 22:18
Hi everyone
Im here to say sorry about how I was in chat the other night :weep:
I was made a mod on nmp and I didnt go by the rules.. So to all of the members that I offended by making sexual conversation I am sorry, It went to far!!
Kate x
Hi Daisey I Wasnt In Room At Time But I Carnt Believe You Would Of Offended Anyone Im Sorry To Think Anyone Was Offended By You Im More Than Sure They Know You Only Jest And Would Only Make Lite Humar Of Things Anyway I Hope Things Work Out For You Hun Take Care Thinking Of You Denize Xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx
purplehaze
06-02-09, 02:26
Hi
pink one
come on you keep the room going and in good order...we all make blips...so cast ye the first stone if you have not had a blip.
never had an issue with your humour
kev
never upset me i thought it was funny we all like a laugh
Hey there,
If anyone understand that people are over-sensitive to some of the intionally helpful remarks we make. it me; all I did was mention the latest warnings about binge drinking and I was the devil incarnate. Only reason I don't drink is cos on meds I'm not allowed any. Sure you would never mean to offend anyone Daisy - in fact I'm certain so dunna fret any longer... we all say things without thinking that people might be a bit upset by the truth of what we say. As I said and will continue to - there are twice as many in denial as there are that will come forward and admit to needing help with their problems, yet that is one reason the site is here.... Mystically yours
Hi everyone
Im here to say sorry about how I was in chat the other night :weep:
I was made a mod on nmp and I didnt go by the rules.. So to all of the members that I offended by making sexual conversation I am sorry, It went to far!!
Kate x
kate hun im so sorry this has happened to u u dont deserve this at all hun and u r a great mod i hope that admin will see this and reinstate u soon u have my support i was in chat at the time and saw nothing offensive at all
take care hunny hope to see u soon xx
i was not there but i am sure you was not only one has for being removed as a mod admin need there heads reading you are one of the best ones and down to earth just another example of how some pompass person can ruin things .
yeah they ahould reinstate you and banned the pompus person who complain they need a life and are probalby fake
morning kate.just have to say i and many others, most ppl on here, know that u wood never ever try upset anyone, u aint like that and wood never deliberatley offend anyone...and after talking to lots of ppl about wot happened in chat and fact u got banned for it is well shocking and fact that ur mod status taken away is out rageous...for a start u were not only person in convo that was complained about, also think if u upset a person that complained, why did they not just say to u that they felt uncomfortable with the convo to ur face instead of going behind ur back and complaining about u...I and many others are disgusted that u have been treated this way, u are a kind and lovely person and u were not only one in convo as said......just think its pants and we all like u as mod, u do a fab job hun...anyhow take care of u hugs.............................................. .................................................. .and to ur complainer.u are a gutless wonder who shoodve had decency to say to kate that u had a problem, as kate woodve understood!! so u upset her and many others by doing so!! anyhow said my piece!!
Good luck hun , I always thought you were a brill Mod. Cant comment on the discussion as was not there but I am sure u didnt mean to offend anyone . Its a shame that sometimes humour just doesnt come over in text I am sure you meant no offence and I am sorry you have been removed as a Mod. Keep happy hun XXXXXXXXXX
bottleblond
06-02-09, 12:50
i was not there but i am sure you was not only one has for being removed as a mod admin need there heads reading you are one of the best ones and down to earth just another example of how some pompass person can ruin things .
As you pointed out above, you were NOT there so cleary have no idea of what you are commenting on.
I am admin and take great offence at your comment, my head is perfectly fine thankyou, and pompous is something i am not.
It would be greatly appreciate if you would check your facts before publicly slating people in future.
Lisa
NMP Administrator
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sorry if came over as abrupt to "complainer" just think coodve been handled at time in chat with person saying that convo was making them feel uncomfortable, as i am sure the convo woodve stopped to avoid upsetting ppl.....and went on to something else....just think was no need to go so far....kate is good at mod and defuses situations and is loving and caring person, who just likes alot a laughs like us all to help the anx atc....
WolfiesALady
06-02-09, 14:14
Kate, you shouldn't worry over people so much. I was present on the night and I personally did not see anything which may have offended anyone.
However, it is very easy to offend over a chatroom - due to the fact that no one is "face to face" as we are chatting away, it can be difficult to distinguish exactly what kind of tone something is being said in, which then results in a miscommunication, and the consequences which follow afterwards.
I do however, think that taking your status down was a tad harsh. I believe that people should be warned - clearly - before any further, drastic and dramatic actions are taken, and I'm sorry to say that it appears that because you were held in such a status in the first place; you've taken the brunt of the fall out.
I do however, hope that you are reinstated over time, you have done well as a Chatroom Moderator. Lots of things happen within chat itself, and things may get out of control, but that also happens in real life, and it's something we should all accept, because nothing can be 100% perfect or 100% pure happiness and no conflict, if you catch my drift.
In conclusion, I am sorry that this has happened, although I do want to emphasise that you remain very welcome in chat; you're great friends with the regulars. However, like everyone else on here - we are all capable of causing offense unintentionally; that is something which cannot be helped.
Sending my love and hugs to you Kate,
Chrissy xxxxxxxxxxxxxx
pink-daisey
06-02-09, 14:17
Hi Guys
Thankyou for some of your sweet replies.. I did not write this thread to start any disagreements etc.. I know the rules in chat and I did break them as it is not a room for any sexual comments and I must say I know that people could get offended by any of this happening in the chat room.
When People see mods talking this way can make the situation worse so I understand why my mod status had to be taken away :-(
This site helps lots of people and Nic has done a really good job at running it. It has even been voted to be on the nhs list of websites for helping anxiety etc.
anyway my mod status ahas been taken away and I have been banned for 7 days so I wont be around for a while. so hope you guys are all well and ask for help in the chat room if needed guys we are a great family on nmp.
Kate xx
Look forward 2 u being back in chat, it just shows by the amount of support ur getting that ppl were not offended, i wasnt there and havent known you that long, but im sure you didnt set out 2 offend anyone, chat is just chat isnt it. Anyway a weeks not that long everyone will be happy 2 have u back see you soon hon xx
Sorry to hear about what's happened Kate. Hope you're ok.
If you want to talk leave me a message on MSN.
Sending love :flowers: xx
Kate,
I am so sorry to hear what has happened. I heard from the others and you know alot of ppl should be BANNED then for making crude comments and such. Because at some point or another all of us have been guilty of it. Taking your mod status away is just outrageous. I have seen other mods act the same way and its all fun and games.
I am very disappointed in the way it was handled. What goes around comes around.
Duckie
IrishPrincess
06-02-09, 16:22
Heya Gf,
I agree with that you should've been warned first,I do think it was a bit harsh.It was a laugh and a joke and i understand some ppl can get offended but there is no need to go so far the person could've pm u and said they were offended.Do think u did well as a mod,i saw u in there helping ppl when they needed it.
I think this is terrible. You done nothing wrong. In a room full of people who have problems and feel down you tried to have fun and cheet everyone up. I think it is ridiculous that someone could find something so trivial and actually complain. Ok in the rules it says you shouldnt make sexual conversation but to be honest i think that what u did was hardly sexual and not in the least offensive. Nice to know you get punished for having fun round here.
Having read the other comments i also agree that this could have been handled much better. I think a warning should have been given and then you would have known never to speak like that again. I know you well and I know you follow the rules. To be banned from chat altogether suprises me. I think they have lost a good caring throughful member of their team.
sorry your going thorough this i have spoken to you briefly in chat before many moons ago and you are a kind person, i also think a warning would of been sufficient, and the person who complained could fo spoke to you about it rather than anything else see you back soon,
amanda
nomorepanic
06-02-09, 18:41
Oh dear :lac:
Kate has been good enough to apologise to us and she is aware of what she said and what happened.
The rest of you are just jumping on the band wagon as usual and slagging off the admins. Shame on you all for not knowing the full facts first. I do think some of you need to get your facts right first please before posting such comments on here. I am very disappointed in some of the remarks made and I know that they do hurt the admins as well so please think how you would feel if you were an admin and read such things about yourself when you were still a sufferer as well.
Some people on here are just downright rude and nasty towards the admins who do such a fab job.
Kate - thanks for the apology and I am sure you never intended this thread to go the way it has.
purplehaze
06-02-09, 21:19
I have to agree with Nicola on this and I have had my run ins with the admin but I have to agree that they do a great Job and even if we disagree with a view we need to remember that this site is here for everyone that suffers.
I cant throw stones at anyone and I think we should be thanking Nicola and the admin team (including the kate) for running this site.
Kate I wasnt present at the time so I really cant comment on what was said. I do know however that when i used the chatroom you was one of the most friendliest members in there.
I know what ever it was you said was meant in jest as I dont for one minute think you intended to offend. That isnt in your nature.
BTW Ive had some of the best laughs on the internet in that room and ive always seen as whats been said as tongue in cheek and have never taken offence to anything anyone has said.
Anyway you have apoligised and the admin have taken it so I hope you get reinstated as a Mod very soon x
Take care
Lou x
bottleblond
06-02-09, 22:32
Haze
Thankyou for your support! it really is appreciated.
For those who have commented....
In all fairness people only see what is on the forum and what is said in the chat room, however the running of the site as a whole is a different matter all together.
No one on the admin/mod team like to see ANYONE warned or banned and it takes alot of hard work, talking and investigating to reach any one decission.
We are not bad people and only have the members and sites best interests at heart.
Obviously some people will be angry and upset at times and we are used to this and prepared for it but please remember we are only people too and you know, it's hard for us too!
Regards
Lisa
x
purplehaze
06-02-09, 23:17
We are all hurting people and at times we say and do things that we later regret but we are human and sometimes (if your like me) we say things in the heat of the moment and even post things without giving proper thought to who may be reading it.
Words do hurt, even if we dont mean them to but maybe we all need to just think a little more before we post. I know I have thought a lot about this over the past week and I know one or two of my posts have hurt people, even if I didnt mean to.
If we think of this site as the admins against us then that only breeds ill feeling but if we see this as people working together to give hope, advice, love , support and genuine compassion to what we all are going through, then we will see NMP as a "noahs ark" as a place where we all will feel welcome.
aw kate hun xxxxxxxxxxxxx i wasnt there when this happend i havent really been around alot this week but i know everyone can carried away sometimes and people do get offended but normally you are a totally fab mod! so i hope you get the position back.i will miss you around here for the next few days! your the life of the chat room!
charli xxxxxx
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