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patmac

11-04-09, 18:27

bottleblond

11-04-09, 18:31

Pat

I am really sorry that this is happening and i am also sorry that you have been upset.

Unfortunately Unless rules have been borken then our hands are tied. If you feel however that this is the case then please feel free to contact me.

Kind regards

Lisa

miss_worry

12-04-09, 15:12

patmac

You are right and I feel the same. Hence my absence from the chat room.

nomorepanic

12-04-09, 16:06

This is a sad fact of life I am afraid and happens in real life as well. It is human nature to gossip about other people and the chat room is no different.

As Lisa said we can only intervene if rules are broken or the talk is really abusive but we cannot tell people who they can and can't like or talk to.

Please don't let it put you off going in though and just view it as real life where people won't always get on.

Ross

12-04-09, 21:31

I really have to Echo what Nic said.

This happens in every aspect of life.... be it after a telephone call, after someone has gotten off a bus, after someone has left the pub, when someone leaves for lunch at work.

The list is endless.

I'm quite sure just as much positive talk occurs as negative.

london

13-04-09, 04:11

lets forget he said she said stuff ,let worry about getting better

katie76

13-04-09, 11:02

hiya,
i just wanted to come on here and tell you all how i am feeling,:weep:
last night i couldnt get to sleep, not because of my usual anxiety and phobia they were at the back of my mind, but the last few times i have been in the chatroom i have noticed that when people go off or are not there others start to discuss them in a negitive way and it has really started to upset me as i am now thinking what if they discuss me like that when i am off, i dont like it when people discuss other people in a negitive way when i am there as they are not there to defend theirselfs.
does anyone else feel this way? it makes it hard for me to do the trust thing which is a shame when i a looking for friends:weep:

I can understand how you're feeling and yes it really isn't nice that people do this. Some people will always like a good old gossip, but as some of the others have already said, this will unfortunately always happen in life no matter where we are.

Keep your chin up, you're obviously a better person than this :).

Take good care of yourself and talk to those you feel that care.

Hope you feel much better soon. :flowers:

tayside lassie

13-04-09, 12:30

should there not be a moderator in chat to stop this !!!!

patmac thats life ...not a nice thing to do but thats how some folks are

nomorepanic

13-04-09, 12:33

should there not be a moderator in chat to stop this !!!!

They are not in 24x7 no

london

13-04-09, 12:39

thay are mods not police thay work hard enough as it is

tayside lassie

13-04-09, 13:54

thay are mods not police thay work hard enough as it is

only asking a question never said they were police .......

really dont care dont use chat .....

patmac

13-04-09, 16:23

i know what you are all saying, just dont like it very much, i think that if you are not brave enough to say it to a persons face and wait until they are off then the people who are chatting about them should go on pm and say it there, it is not very nice i know it happens in real life i just dont need 2 see it there as im not in the same place. not saying anything about mods it happened once when 1 was there and noticed she stopped it. thank you.

Captain America

13-04-09, 16:28

well sometimes people just start gossipping and don't know they're being mean or hurtful. maybe when the mods aren't there and you see it about others you could raise the same point in the chat room that you did here and see how people react? i don't think they'd attack you just for saying that it makes you uncomfortable.

london

13-04-09, 17:01

i go by
i never say nothing i would not say to someone face
i say say any thing on the internet i would never say to there face

katie76

13-04-09, 17:46

i go by
i never say nothing i would not say to someone face
i say say any thing on the internet i would never say to there face

Colin, I'm sure if people knew you the same as I do, they too would know this. I also go by what you have said, as you know. Whether it's in the chatroom, on the forum, phone or here with me.
People who do gossip like this, I really haven't got time for. And to the people who are bothered by it, really shouldn't stress and let it get them down, don't let these people live in your minds. Hell,.. we all have enough on our plate and far more important things going on in our lives. :) x

To the original poster,
Please try not to let this get to you, think of yourself and your own surroundings, they're far more important.

There are some really lovely caring people here, who will be willing to chat with you, you'll soon find out who you can have faith in.
Take it easy x:)

snowdrop

14-04-09, 06:39

I guess i was naive to this and had no idea peeps would do this but as you've all said it happens everywhere and there isnt really anything we can do about it.

At first when i read your post i thought 'right i'm not going on anymore' but thinking about it logically its a massive help to me and great to have a chat and who cares if peeps want to talk about me afterwards..

Don't worry about it hun, just ignore it and pop in and have a laugh.

Hope to see you in there soon.

Lou xxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

snowdrop

14-04-09, 06:40

PS Londons the chat room police...dont worry!lol

claire m

14-04-09, 12:49

at first when i read this post i was really alarmed as a big part of the way i am is obsessing and worrying about what others feel and think about me and the struggle i have with social anxiety, but like someone posted it does happen and i have never come across anything malicious in the chatroom and if something has been said about anyone in the chatroom once they have gone it has been nice comments such as how lovely they are or that they are being thought about.:flowers:

patmac

14-04-09, 15:27

i just want to write this to tell you all that i know that there are alot of good people on chat, and i enjoy speaking to them, origanal post said some people have been talking about others when not there or go away. this is why it got me soo upset, i am enjoying going into the chat room and that is why the people who were talking about others annoyed me, claire part of my problems are having no self esteem and find it really hard to make friends and that is why i didnt like to see it. most off the people are really friendly i enjoy going on when certain people are on and now know who 2 speak 2. x

weeble40

14-04-09, 17:10

I for one am proud and honoured, to call people in chat my friends, I also have never heard anything nasty been said, Im sure if I did I would be the first to jump in,

glad you finding it better Patmac,

see we dont bite afterall (well wolfie does) but we keep her muzzled

much love to all

and long live NMP chat

Emms xxxxx

PsychoPoet

14-04-09, 18:58

If I caught anybody bitching about me I would unleash the cyber-ninjitsu :D

katie76

14-04-09, 19:15

If I caught anybody bitching about me I would unleash the cyber-ninjitsu :D

Lol,.. here's your Team :-:)

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