I want to say sorry [Archive]

nomorepanic

18-04-09, 23:55

I went in chat tonight and stayed after the quiz and went between several rooms that were created.

I was very upset over recent events on NMP and being blamed for someone's attempted suicide so I was a bit off with people in chat.

I am sorry but I am sure you can understand why I was mad at some people.

It is not my fault and I am sorry it happened but people cannot blame NMP - that is not fair :weep:

diane07

19-04-09, 00:19

Oh nic,

I think we're all feeling the pressure from it, and as you run nmp it is so much worse for you, i actually felt like putting my trainers on today and running and running and running, i dread sometimes logging on, wondering what complaints are next, it is so difficult to help run this site, let alone, run it.
I don't know how you cope, but i know there are so many here who understand how hard it is for you, and i know there are so many more here that support you rather than don't.

please don't apologise, and no, nmp cannot be responsible for everything.

we can only do what we do, and you do so much for us all.

di xx

PsychoPoet

19-04-09, 00:34

Hi Nic, only a fool would try to blame you for that. Surely anybody with maturity and an IQ bigger than their shoe size will know that you do not determine the way the world works; there is such a thing as free will. People choose what actions they take.

At the end of the day people cannot say that something happened because the No More Panic admins did or didn't do something.

spaced

19-04-09, 01:09

:hugs: :hugs: :hugs: nic nobodys fault:hugs: this site does lots of good helping people:hugs: :hugs:

Stressed32

19-04-09, 03:06

I really am not sure what is going on, but I will say this...your site has saved my life! I was in a terrible place when I was led here. This is a place where I found what was going on with me AND TONS of people just like me. That was the most comforting part of all.
I even met friends in other countries. Please do not feel bad from 1 bad experience because I can assure you that there are more good experiences here just like mine. I thank you guys SO SO SO much for what you do and for having this safe place. God bless you!!!!!!!!!!!

london

19-04-09, 03:54

not your fault if people do that ,this place dos a look of good for people
dont worry its not down to you or nmp

Danny_dingle

19-04-09, 09:51

Hi Nic,

Everyone is right; there are so many people on this website that have helped each other and, I know we aren't really supposed to bring it up, but I am sure for every one persons attempted suicide there have been thousands that have been SAVED from it by YOUR WEBSITE. :yesyes:

Nic you are a saviour to all the people on here; every day I read people saying how they don't know what they'd have done without this website, or how they are so glad and relieved they have found it. I am one of those people, and if everyone felt as happy as I did when they realised they weren't alone, then that is absolutely amazing!

I also remember reading somehwere that it does not matter what you say to someone, you will not 'make' them attempt suicide; it is always a personal decision, and never anybody else's fault.

We are all behind you Nic and we all think your website is the best thing to have happened to us!
Take care and don't blame yourself: IT IS NOT YOUR FAULT! :bighug1:

Danny xxx

finny12000

19-04-09, 10:42

Hi nic
Nmp is a lifeline for ppl for information sharing tips meeting new friends and a place for lost souls to regain something.
Its also a place where ill ppl come and once in a while something like this will happen but to blame nmp is absurd.
If they also had tv on is bbc to blame?For one reason or another ppl attempt suicide and 99% do not mean to die its a cry for help but what better place to come than nmp for help
As i said previously lets get back to basic nmp values and all help and support each other and nic cmon behave and get back to what you do best running this site xxx

PoppyC

19-04-09, 10:51

Hi Nic
I think this is a great site. There are a lot of similar online sites but I have found this one to be the best by a long way. It shows by how many people choose to use this and return every day, and several times a day.
I find NMP really helpful and I for one, would feel a big loss if for example you were to ever close the site. It would be awful. I turn to this place as I know that there are so many others here who I can relate to, where offline, I find that others cannot relate to how I feel. This site was the first place I turned to when I had my awful panic attack the other weekend and it really did help. I was around other people too at that time, but I just wanted to come onto here for support, which I immediately received.
If some has attempted suicide, however upsetting that is, NMP and yourself should not be held accountable for that. People make their own decisions when they try to harm themselves and should not hold others responsible for such actions. It is their own action.
The trouble with chat rooms I have found in the past is that people behave just as they do offline, but when online people tend to get brave because their is no real threat and they are feel safe sat at a computer, theres no risk involved. Offline they would maybe think twice about what they say to others.
There will never be such a thing as a trouble free chat room I dont think. I dont go into chat ( I went in to say Hi twice) Is it possible to have a 'ignore' feature, where if others are being bothered by someone they can choose to block their replies. Maybe you have this though?
I admire you Nic and the rest of the NMP team - it cannot be an easy thing running a site. I just hope that the minority do not ruin this site for the majority.

mumof31978

19-04-09, 11:39

aww nic dont be sorry its not ur fault i can understand why ur u were like that last night.

its not fair that this is being blamed on nmp u didnt do nothing wrong.

i hope ur okay

just think u have helped thousands of people and i am one off them

take care

Kells81

19-04-09, 11:42

Hey Nic

The things you said last night in chat turned out to be completely right so dont feel bad about this.

You and this site help so many people, you should be so proud of yourself.

Hope you start feeling better soon xxx

smiley

19-04-09, 12:02

Nic i have not been here while this has been happening due to things in my own life but no way is anyone from nmp to blame.This site is a lifeline for many many people including myself and the people here a friendly and totally genuine,what people decide to do with their own lives is entirely up to them and no one has to feel guilt for this

anyway just wanted to add to this post and to say thank you so much for everything you guys do without this place many of us would have to suffer this alone.

Huge thanks to you guys anything i can do to help just leave me a pm

Heidi xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

sharona

19-04-09, 12:10

Hi Nic

Just wanted to say how this site helped me when I had no one to turn to. I get so much info and support from it. Like everyone has said its up to them what route they take.I know chat gets very manic at times especially when all you need is some advice and no one really wants to talk to you but hey there's always someone to help.

Thank god for this site thats all I have to say.

Keep up the good work.

Sharon a xxx

june

19-04-09, 12:20

:hugs: :hugs: :hugs:
I would be lost without this site
June
:hugs:

nomorepanic

19-04-09, 13:13

Thanks everyone for the kind words of support. It has made me feel better today.

It wasn't just me that was upset by this and worked hard to resolve it. I also had the support of all the admins and chat mods who sat tirelessly reading chat logs to try and make some sense of what happened and what went on.

We have issued one member with infraction points for his part in the conversation that took place.

Thanks again everyone.

Jaco45er

19-04-09, 13:16

Nic lass x

Glad you are feeling better :)

bottleblond

19-04-09, 13:41

Just a wee addition for me lol

I have been working behind the scenes with Nic and the team with this one and i have to say it is the most stressfull time i have had on NMP. It has taken hours and hours of hard work which has left us all pretty drained and emotional.

I couldn't stay last night after the quiz because my nerves were on a short fuse too, i was over tired and stressed to the max so Nic i completely understand where you are coming from.

You guys have been so lovely with you kind words and support so a huge thankyou to you all.

Lets hope we can all work together now and get Chat back to the fun and supportive place it was.

Lisa
xxx
:hugs:

IrishPrincess

19-04-09, 14:04

Hey Nic,
Glad you feel better, I wouldn't worry about last night, everyone understood.

kate

19-04-09, 14:56

mmac43

19-04-09, 15:37

This site has been the best and most supportive place that I have ever been in contact with and has had an amazing affect on my life. I am so sorry Nic and others are upset and just want to add to the posts sending a huge "Thank You" to Nic and other Admins for their work in keeping it available to those who take such comfort and support from it.

honeybee3939

19-04-09, 15:42

Haven't got a clue what's been going on but I only know that no one can be blamed for someone elses actions, they ultimately make their own decisions in life.

Nic, you aren't well yourself and you can well do without all this. How about taking a break for a while and thinking about YOU?

I agree with what Kate said and wanted to send you and the admins one of my biggest hugs, you all do a fantastic job. Sometimes i wonder to my self why do you all put up with this grief (especially over the last week)but then i realise what wonderfull people you must be doing all this hard work for free to help others.

Thankyou all, for all that you do.

:bighug1: :bighug1: :bighug1:
Andrea
xxxxx

Pamii_Annii1285

19-04-09, 22:43

Nic,

u are going thru the same as us all on nmp, there is nothing for you to be sorry about u are only tryin to help others. what people do is their own desisions and no one elses.

I hope ur ok

Pamii

xx

eeyorelover

20-04-09, 04:32

I agree with what Kate said and wanted to send you and the admins one of my biggest hugs, you all do a fantastic job. Sometimes i wonder to my self why do you all put up with this grief (especially over the last week)but then i realise what wonderfull people you must be doing all this hard work for free to help others.

Thankyou all, for all that you do.

:bighug1: :bighug1: :bighug1:
Andrea
xxxxx

I have seriously considered leaving the admin team a few times because it is so stressful sometimes!
We are all sufferers too so added stress isn't something that any of us seek out!
LOL

But the simple truth is that we all love the site and realize what a benefit it is to people in our situation!

I stay to help out because the site has given me my life back and that is a debt that I'll never be able to repay but I can do my best to give back to the site.

Nic is the strongest, most patient, giving person I know and she spends countless hours behind the scenes making this site what it is, a supportive haven for people who desperately need it!

There isn't one of us on the admin team who wouldn't walk thru fire to help her out and we all have the utmost respect and admiration for her!

xxx
Sandy

tigger1964

20-04-09, 06:34

Hi,

I havent got a clue whats happened, but id like to say that i think NMP is brilliant, i also think that you personally cannot be held responsible for anyones action. I would like to say a massive thankyou to you and the rest of the Admin team you all do a wonderful job, and if it wasnt for the information and encourage, and support that i have got from members, i certainly would not be on the road to recovery.

many thanks again,

sharon x

amandaj

20-04-09, 13:55

its def not your fault nicola, and its no wonder you are short tempered sometimes, the amount of stress you get on here , and with not being well yourself i think we all owe you a hell of a lot for this site ,ive been on here well over a year now and im on here everyday its my lifesaver thanks again
amanda

Piglet

20-04-09, 14:57

starlight78

22-04-09, 22:02

Hi,

I'd like to add here that this site is incredible.. the positivity and warmth that just pours off the screen is wonderful... I'd like to thank Nicola and all the admins, you are truly lovely people to give up your time to help so many others, especially when you are also struggling.

I have personally found this site to be instrumental in helping my recovery and cant thank you enough.

Love and hugs xx

emmas

22-04-09, 22:12

:hugs: im also clueless - but i do know that chat causes lots of problems from time to time - sorry this has happened and that the mods and admins and you nic have had to be stressed out - please keep going, because likethe others have said you and your work means sooooo much to others. it is really a shame that things like that happen - such is life, the dramas that can and do go on on nmp - but they blow over and things return to normal - pretty much a reflection of life in general - take care of yourself first and foremost nic, but know when this happens that most are completely indebted to you and your team:hugs:

nomorepanic

23-04-09, 19:42

Aww some lovely replies - thanks.

Sandy - that was very kind what you said mate - thanks for all your help too.

All is sorted now and calmed down and I know I am not supposed to get stressed at the moment cos of the Crohn's so I am calm again and the drama is all over.

Everyone has been so kind and supportive.