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the Dr says its in my head and i dont really need to go but i reallllly do.
Actually, your doctor is right because I don't think he/she meant it in the way it sounds.
It's true to say that if we've had alot to drink, eaten alot of fruit or are suffering from a bug, then we will need the loo frequently but on a normal average day, it's "in our head" that makes us feel we need to go when if we controlled what's going on in our head then we wouldn't need the loo frequently.
I've suffered from this problem all my life and I know exactly why I suffer from it but I still find it difficult to control. The one thing I have learned though is that I may need no.1 when I'm out but it's been years since I've needed no.2 while I've been out!
I know I've posted this before but I used to hate using the loo at school so I'd try and hold on until I got home. It didn't do me any good! Every morning before I went to school I'd try and make sure I "went" in the hope I wouldn't need the loo at school. I even used to take kaolin and morphine in the mornings to settle my tummy! (I'm NOT advising it and nor do I know even if it's still available anyway!)
I also used to feel very anxious before I went to work. I used to eat lots of fruit and drink lots of orange juice the night before to make sure I "went" in the mornings. Trouble was by the time I got to work I'd be in such an anxious state that my first visit was the loo. I hated using the loo (my toilet phobia) so I'd cover it with loo paper and end up blocking it so I used to have to allow time in the mornings for my daily visit that I was trying to avoid!
These days I still feel anxious before I go out, especially if I think I'm going to be out for a long period But I no longer eat so much fruit and avoid drinking before I go out because I realise now that it just made me want to go more. I find now that once I'm out I don't "think" about needing a loo so I end up "not needing" a loo because I'm keeping my mind occupied on what I'm needing to do rather than how I'm feeling. Often I end up not even needing a loo until I get home hours later.
It's stress and the fear of needing the loo that makes us want the loo so it's how we're "thinking" so I can understand what the doc was meaning.:hugs:
Re: Anyone else in this situation???
^ I know exactly what you mean, that sounded like Id written it myself. lol
Ive not left the house in 7 years due to this fear, Im only 23 and I have missed out on so much due to this fear of loosing control.But I can not prevent the thoughts anymore, which triggers the physical, if only their was some way to stop it, I dont wanna be agoraphobic all my life. Its killing me, but I find it embarrassing to talk about, other then my doctor and I dont think she takes it seriously at all, yet its destroying my life. If you find any solutions let me know! xxx
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I can sooo relate to this!
It's a nightmare isn't it? I am absolutely terrified of needing the toilet when I'm out, and not being able to get to one... I really take it to the extreme. Before I leave my house, I go to the toilet about 10 mins before I need to leave, then 5 mins before, and then again right before I'm leaving - all to try and prevent me from needing when I'm out :blush: It's an obsession! And when I arrive wherever I'm going, the first thing I do is go to the toilet... I always plan outings around where the nearest toilets are :blush: I'm even really bad on mornings when my dad gets up really early to go to work... I seem to know what days he's getting up early, and make sure that I go to the toilet before he goes in the shower etc... as I'm absolutely terrified of needing and not being able to get into the toilet due to someone else using it etc... I'm not sure that when I go it is because I desperately need to go - I just go as it's a sort of habit now, and it's to prevent me from needing to go! :blush: It's all very confusing! :blush:
Lou x
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Hello im 19 years old and i think i definatly have I.B.S! Im so worried as it makes me feel so uncomfortable! I have lots of symptoms, bloating, funny taste in my mouth when i have a attack, wanting to go to the toilet loads and loads a day and (my boyfriend moans at me), and i have a mixture sometimes my stools are hard and i have to strain to go, or sometimes i past wind on the toilet and it just all comes out! I also have some headaches and they go when my pain goes! My pains are quite bad when i have them under my ribs! Please can someone tell me if this sounds like IBS
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thankyou:weep:
Re: Anyone else in this situation???
I spent a year alone, on my own, leaving the house for college, no social events for approx. 2 years...
It was so hard getting out of the old routine, I strongly recommend you stay out-and-about even if its 100 meters from your house, just keep pushing it every couple of months:)