like to clear some stuff up
congrats nic on the nhs accreditation.
ok something id like to clear up because i get tired of being asked this question every single day,
ok marcus2 and i are a couple yes we both live in the same house and we have 2 comps ( we dont share the same one and log in one after the other to chat with people, thats just silly be sensible people) we are also in the same room and same chatroom.usually when we are in chat we talk to diff people.yes we both have issues regarding anxiety ect but they are diff issues and i cant say i understand all his or him all mine sometimes anothers point of view is handy.
personally im agoraphobic and social phobic that means i dont go out often and b dont really socialise for anxiety reasons, so i like to come to chatrooms.although im in a chatroom im still a bit guarded and a bit shy and id really like it if people could spare me blood pressure from rising by asking why we both come here.
the other thing id like to point out is i refered to a clique.i didnt mention who i felt these people were or why
. an attmosphere seems to creep in at times.chats going along quite normally everyone seems to be having fun but behind the scenes is an undercurrent and a feeling of things not being quite right.its not so much whats said in chat thats the problem its the feeling of it that at times .makes me feel on edge.i explained to some here about empathy ( basically means being able to feel others emotions) its not something i can turn off. and sometimes i really dont like it.but it helps me with psychic and mediumship readings so im guessing i have it for a reason.
i dont mind feeling someones upset, tears,panic,happiness thats nothing really standard stuff. its the judgemental stuff i hate sensing, .dislike as many people as u want as long as that dislike comes from your experience and not the opinion of others.if u dont like my post im not gonna take offence as long as u have the decency to read it yourself and decide for yourself.
often when we dont like people its because we see something in them we cant tolerate in ourselfs.so its good to look at why we react to certain people the way we do,why we feel out of our comfort zone with them.and it only really becomes a problem when u blame the other person and make it thier fault.i appoligise if some of u were left feeling paranoid when i said clique.maybe i just dont understand group mentality?if i was outside and had to pass a gang of people id feel uncomfy and i guess i experience the same in a chatroom 2. .if staff feel this topic needs to be locked to save "debate" thats fine but i know people here are "grown ups" and are capable of responding accordingly.everyone here has fantastic qualities individually.
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what more can i say you have covered it all amazing xxx
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ps do i get a prize for the longest ever post on here lol just kidding i appoligise for it reading like a novel:blush:
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Love you guys - and thank you for making me feel very welcome in the chat room.
SJ
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I went in chat last night for the first time in ages. There was something going on but I wasn't sure what or who was involved. I also noticed the clique word being thrown around but I just ignored it and carried on chatting.
The majority of people were just having a good genuine laugh there last night and I must say I enjoyed it very much.
The best thing you can do, Jess, is just keep chatting away to the people that DO respond to you. Ignore anything you don't like and just try and enjoy yourself.
I used to go in chat every single night for hours at a time. It can become your life. BUT, I find now that if you limit your time in there then you aren't aware of any cliques etc cos you aren't so familiar with all the people that visit on a regular basis.
The chat room is supposed to be fun and enjoyable. If this isn't the case for anyone, not just yourself, you are best to steer clear as it does nothing for your anxiety!
Kate
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well said jess thats all im saying xxxx
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all I can say is if you dont like someone dont chat to them...simple as that, whats the point in getting worked up about it, and as for the clique, I dont personaly think there is, just join in!
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hi wen i enter the chatroom everyones realy friendly if i avnt spoke to someone b4 i just join in with ther conversation .everyone is real friendly so come on and join in i cant say i dislike anyone in the chatroom ther all great and sometimes i have a real laugh which takes away my anxiety a bit tc elaine .xxxxxx
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Marcus are you trying to kick off yet another chat arguement ?
Trac