Re: A perspective on HOCD
OMG thank you for this!! Please read my post? I'm struggling, but I don't want to be with a girl (I am a girl) I want to be with a guy!! But my head doesn't want me too!!
Re: A perspective on HOCD
Hi Helpmeeeeeplz, I've already read and responded to your post and offered some advice about where you should look next for help. I think it would be a good idea to follow that advice and also consider what other posters on the same thread have recommended about speaking to a responsible adult or GP.
Re: A perspective on HOCD
Bea,
This really is a top post and I hope anyone through forms like HOCD, TOCD, the inverse versions, etc all read this. :yesyes:
It's really good to get someone talking about the difference due to actually going through understanding their sexuality who also understands OCD. And it's very clear you have a deep knowledge of OCD.
You explain it's little tricks very clearly and I like that you talk about sorting OCD itself and not a theme. Speaking to so many on here it's been clear anxiety jumps from one theme to another and at times it even disappears in some to jump back out and back here they come.
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Shucks! Thanks. I like your 'vicious flower' analogy - it really is like a persistent weed that crops up again and again (for the unlucky ones!). But knowledge is power with these things and as a community we have plenty of that going.
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Thanks Bea, I came across the Vicious Flower ages ago from some therapy reading. These are useful sources (copied from another thread) that explain it and how to counteract it with a Virtuous Flower:
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MyNameIsTerry
It's interesting because I once read a paper aimed at therapists talking about why exposure therapy can fail due to inadequate therapy design. In there it explained about why it is important to first analyse the root of the problem rather than be distracted by the symptoms otherwise you may create a hierarchy of exposures address the current symptoms but fail to address the root and the result is new anxiety forming later or potentially through different themes.
That's very relevant in OCD just like you said where you must address what is underpinning the theme. We can tailor to a theme but unless it addresses more general OCD too, it re grows or sprouts shoots in other directions.
In the article it just mentioned how there is a core and addressing what is attached to it doesn't necessarily address everything attached to that core or the core itself. This is where the flower seems a good visual representation.
Re: A perspective on HOCD
this is really interesting, i never thought ocd could reach to that level.