Whenever I watch lifestyle or holiday programmes on tv I feel sick in my stomach. I've just been watching something about people buying houses and I kept having the thought 'I'd be so depressed if I lived there' or 'that place looks so empty, I'd feel so alone' or 'I can't handle the resposnibility of having my own place'. With holiday programmes I feel sick because I put myself in the position of that person and feel like I want to come home.
Those thoughts snowball and I think 'I can't be normal because other people cope with having their own place and they even get excited about it' and then I think 'I won't ever feel happy with a place', 'I'll only ever be able to afford places that make me miserable and I'll never have a nice place'.
Those thoughts then snowball and I think 'I'll never be able to leave home' and 'what will I do when my family die?'
I've been reading the Obitz book and I like the idea of "thought-catching" and the Thought-Error-Analysis technique.
It is hard for me to see the error in my thinking. I'm the sort of person who thinks 'I'll be happy when that happens or when this happens'.
I'd find it very difficult to move out and get my own place at the moment, especially as getting into lots of financial trouble with my last place precipitated my breakdown.
I just feel a bit overwhelmed and daunted by everything. I'm not especially happy as I am, but I'm scared of trying anything else. I definitely one of those type of people who feels like evryone is watching me waiting for me to fail and it makes me very fearful of making mistakes, which means that I don't like taking chances. That comes from my family being quite critical.
I suppose I just need a bit of help with getting grounded and moving thorough the fears and the worries that are keeping me feel pinned in.
Ships in harbour are safe..but that's not what ships were built for.