Originally Posted by
LF87
Hi,
It's been a while since I posted here. I've been managing alright with my health anxiety the past few weeks. I've started seeing a new psychologist and she's very good. The problem is, it's coming up to 'holiday' time, and I'm stuck in a predicament and just wondering if anyone can give me some advice. It's not necessarily a health anxiety post, but health anxiety is one of the problems.
My friends have booked to go to Turkey on 6th June and stay in my friends villa. They've asked me to come, but I really don't know what to and I'm finding the whole thing very stressful.
I'm scared of the flight for a start, terrified in fact. Not only to I worry about the general functionality of planes, but I worry incase I get ill or something on the plane. So that's the first problem. Then when I actually get there I worry about being ill when I'm there. I worry about the having to go out for drinks part because of the hangover the next day. I can deal with it at home, because it's home. Plus my friends will notice. When I'm away I become a totally different person. Everything is a worry.
My question is, should I be forcing myself to go? I am SICK of my anxiety problems stopping me having a life. I am so envious of just about everyone I know because of their carefree attitude to everything. I can't even bring myself to book the thing. The lady I have been seeing says yes I should go, as a sort of exposure. But I just don't know if I can. I would rather go away with my boyfriend because he knows all of my problems and I can talk to him if I'm panicking. I wouldn't talk like that to my friends so I'd be kind of stuck in that awful feeling. My last holiday was with my boyfriend, which I totally ruined for both of us. I had an ulcer, which I was very worried about. I took a photo of it every day to check the size. I barely ate or drank. I came home 6lbs lighter after an all inclusive holiday. That's how bad it can be. Holidays for me can actually be more stressful and anxiety provoking than anything else, completely defeating the object. It's like spending money to feel absolutely awful. Nobody would do that!
Does anyone else feel this way or have any advice on what I should do?
Thankyou.