Well I have adhd, just started seeing a doctor last week. He started me on ritalin.

so I've taken the first step by trying to get help, and I know it takes time, but times like this, its terrible hard for me.

My girlfriend, lives 1000 miles away from me. We had lived together for 2 years, I screwed up big time...long story short I cheated on her.

I love this girl with all my heart, and she really does love me too. I don't deserve a second chance, but she is willing to give it to me anyway.

Basically the root of the problems in our relationship, is my inablility to give her space...its like if im not talking to her on the phone or instant messages, my brain starts to think she doesn't want to talk to me, even though thats the farthest thing from the truth. Then, When Im able to think rationally, I fall into this self-pity loop, because I feel like I failed her again.


And you can guess what happens, I go on and on and on, until she gets so aggrivated with me that she doesn't want to talk to me, she says she doesn't want to say something she'll regret. I understand that, as hard as it is for me.

And its not the long distance thing, even when we lived together I had the same problem.

A little bit about myself I'm 32, I live at home with my folks, I have problems finding a job, basically a big mess right now. and I get so angry with myself when I push her away like that.

I've already identified one trigger <spending too much time online trying to talk to her and so I'm going to avoid that at all costs

I guess I just need advice on what teqniques might help me. I mean its almost like I feel like im going to lose her no matter what I do. I know Its time for me to step up to the plate, grow up and be a man. I just need some help getting there.

p.s. she asked me to visit for christmas, I said yes, got the ticket in my hand, even so we had a bad night last night, and Im scared shes not going to want me to visit now.

Any advice would be....helpful

Full of hope for the future, but scared.

Andy