Really struggling to over come this

[jefferina]

Hello all..... I'm writing today I suppose just to vent in a way as I'm at a complete loss of how to overcome my social anxiety and in particular the fear of going red and blotchy in front of people.. It's now coming up to the third Xmas in which I really struggle to be around people and I just can't believe I'm still this way. It's like I've almost forgot how to be comfortable around people and to socialise. I just don't no how to become the person I want to be.... I'm currently seeing a counsellor and have tried many things before... All this could change if I could just face my fears but I just can't seem to push myself it's like I have no push left at all..I look at other people going for meals, cinema, shopping, seeing friends and family and it looks so simple and easy for them but for me it's like torture.. I don't want it to be this way. I want to start living I'm wasting my life.
Do people really overcome this? I just can't see how maybe I'm just not strong enough.

[MrAndy]

You can overcome it 100% but it will take time and patience,recovery is never quick or easy
Every little improvement you should write down to look back on,this will help your confidence.You are strong enough you just don't know it,take things in small chunks and be kind to yourself and you should start to see improvements
Good luck

[jefferina]

Hi mr Andy thank you for your reply. I will try your idea out and write things down.worth a try... I hope you are right I really do hope I'm strong enough for this just struggling to see it at the minute. Thanks again it was lovely to get a reply x

[Binky0203]

I know how you feel I suffer the same I even had to cancel going for my first anniversary meal with my husband. I as well don't socialise as find it hard. I find doing baby steps first I go to the places I most feel comfortable and then slowly step by step take myself a bit further.

[jefferina]

Thank you binky for your reply... I've been married two years and so far haven't been able to celebrate either anniversary so I can relate to you with that.. Very upsetting... I agree baby steps is the way forward. Good luck to you in your journey xx