Re: Noise and looking for it....
You've worked out for yourself that you've become over-sensitized to these various noises. They're largely out of your control and this creates stress. You then become much more tuned in to noises you would ordinarily ignore. Noisy neighbours can be detrimental to people who are jumpy anyway, and if you just want a quiet life.
As you say, it may only occasionally during the summer months that these parties occur so it's not something that's happening every week...hopefully for you. As for the other noises, emptying bins, children playing, dogs barking etc, unfortunately it's just people living their lives and not much you can do. But if it does start to become really unbearable, give your local environmental health dept a call and have a chat to them. There are alot of people out there who just don't consider their neighbours at all, or don't care. However, there are equally people who cannot tolerate the slightest noise and complain alot. Most of us fall somewhere in between.
As for advising you on how to cope with it, it's a difficult one. We all react differently to things like this. I'm not unsympathetic though because our neighbour leaves his dog tethered to a metal ring on the wall of his apartment and it barks incessantly at anybody walking past his garden.
Last summer it was outside until midnight most nights so we complained to the landlady who said she'd sort it, and the dog disappeared, but it's now started happening again now the winter's over. I feel sorry for the poor dog. He gets one walk a day up the street and back and then he's tied to the ring again for the rest of the day. If it carries on the landlady, who is also our landlady, will be getting another call. She's supposed to have a 'no pets' rule, but apparently they just moved in with the dog without her knowing.
I hope you get some resolution for your peace of mind.
ISB ☺ x
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