Self-Harm

[Bunty]

Lea

It's okay to still be having problems. Recovery is slow but it helps if you can recognise the tiny little signs of progress. Every minute you want to self harm but don't is a success.

You and I both know that when someone first has thoughts of selfharming they are normally so overwhelming they don't really have a choice.

I'm okay. Still attending councelling and doing the Mindfulness.

You have to remember that recovery is slow. If you accept that and accept that you will have set backs it might help. Try not to be so hard on yourself. Don't just read this and think 'yes I'll try that' actually try to like yourself. I know how hard this is because i'm still working on it!!

What do you do to pamper yourself? I started taking long bubble baths. I take a hot drink in with me and sometimes read a book. It was odd to begin with but it's really relaxing. i've also got my Mum doing it now.
It's such a simple thing but it's something you can do that's nice for yourself.
Take care

Buntyx

[leo05]

hi hun n i know ya make sense but well a cant see and good thats the prob! and to pamper ma self well let me think, a write a know thats not really pampering maself but tbh i h8 me so i dont see y i should be pampered really sorry sorry

and i am proud of you and thanks for always replying to me ya a star XXXX

hugs for ya and you tc too and its gd to hear that ya getting btr though makes me kinda think i can too

hugs n love

lea xx

[Bunty]

Hi Lea

Okay, don't think of it as pampering yourself.
I want you to just do the following:

Run a bubble bath, lay in it. make sure you take a cup of coffee or tea with you. make sure you've washed your hair so you're completely clean and fresh. If you've got a book, lay in the bath and have a read.

Go on, what harm can it do????

It's like a warm hug.

Buntyxx

[leo05]

a will try it for ya and what harm well alot really but a will try

how are you ?
hugs for ya and thanks for ya continued support

lea xx

[Bunty]

Lea

I'm fine thank you. Learning to like myself and standing up for myself when people overstep the mark without feeling guilty about it!

Buntyxx

[waccyman]

I use to self harm, i haven't for about 3 months now. A useful tip my Doctor told me was rather than cutting or bruising myself when i get the urge to self harm grab some ice cubes and squeeze them real tight in my hands. Yes it hurts but you have no damage to yourself. I started to do that and it did help me. I hope this has been of use to you, I wish you all the best and hope you get better.

[milly jones]

bunty would there be any possibility of u sending me the document u discussed with lea if its ok

sorry to be rude and ask

but would welcome help

milly xx

[leo05]

hey bunty hun well done and proud of you and keep up the brill work xx
hugs n love xx
lea

[leo05]

waccyman, thanks for you post and i am glad to hear that is working for you,
and here if ya ever need to talk

lea

[leo05]

hi milly hun i have the doc if you want it thats if it is ok with bunty??
and i am here if ya ever need to chat or nething

hugs n love
lea xx