I was watching Star Trek the other night and Data asked "Why do humans make friends when friends can cause hurt"?
I think we're just social animals. We need friendships so we don't feel alone, especially when we have something in common that causes suffering.
However, there's a saying "ships pass in the night". I can think back to so many people I've known but they've all gone. Their lives just took them in different directions. Sometimes we say we'll always be around for someone but life never seems to be like that.
My father used to say how he always wanted the family to stay close but some went abroad or just to live miles away. Sometimes it seems the harder you try to keep friends, the more they slip through your fingers. I guess because we all have our own lives to lead.
Sometimes we trap ourselves into lifestyles or situations that create barriers which leave us feeling isolated because no one can get near however hard we try to allow them.
We all need friends so we all have to cope with hurt and the only way I know is to be happy for them if they've found happiness. If they don't appear to care about us as we do about them then I guess we have to be thick skinned. Hard to do though I know.
The only thing I know for sure is that to live without friends is to live a lonely existence so we have to risk hurt and learn to cope when the ships we meet fire at us or sail on.
Sorry for the ramble. It was the programme. It just made me think so I thought I'd think outloud!