Ok, here goes, this is not easy for me, as laying myself bare or admmiting that I'm not ok is such a hard thing for me to do and this is kind of an exercise for me in itself.
It's a really naff day today, not helped I'm sure by consuming half a bottle of wine last night, I took this route as I have quite an emotive and difficult problem that I have got to deal with tomorrow and am dreading it.
What I find so hard to do is really open up to anybody, for many years even when I considered my self-esteem to be pretty robust, I still was the one that always helped my friends and family out with their problems, always perceived as the strong one, the one to hold everybody up and even then had great difficulty talking if I was experiencing problems myself. I know that this is a throw back to my early years when there was nobody there, and I can remember from a young age telling myself that I could cope alone, wasn't going to let what was happening at home destroy me (even writing that makes me feel like a victim), but how do you change the habit of a lifetime? Even yesterday seeing a friend, I could see that she wasn't ok and she totally opened up to me, was very truthful with how she was feeling, and I was glad I could help, but then she asked me how I was and I told her I was fine! Why can't I get over this?
Posting this fills me with dread and part of me wants to delete and forget it, but I'm going to be brave and be honest!
Fifi