I have no friends

[helenclaire]

Since suffering from agorophobia/anxiety i no longer have any friends, it really is a lonely place to be, the only people i have close to me are my family dont get me wrong they are the best thing in my life, but they do not really understand and i do not want to burden them with my problems.
I have never had a lot of friends as i am quite shy and so find it difficult to talk to people, but i did have a couple of friends that i use to go out with, but since this started and i started to make excuses not to go out they no longer bother with me, so i no longer have anyone to socialise with or chat to.
I spend most of my time in the house on my own sometimes i would love someone to call in just for a chat, but unless i can get out and meet people this is never going to happen.
I guess i am just feeling sorry for myself at the moment
Helen

[Ma Larkin]

Hi Helen,

I know how you are feeling. I have suffered from depression since my teens (I'm 41 now) and loneliness is most definitely the worst thing in my life. I do have 3 children aged 19, 10 and 7 and my 19 year old daughter and her boyfriend have a 5 week old baby (my lovely little grandson), they have their own house so there is just me and the 2 youngest at home and some times I have no adult conversation whatsoever. I work full-time so I do get to chat and meet people at work, but I'm up at the crack of dawn, don't get home until 5.45pm, then have to start doing the tea, washing, sorting kids out etc., and once the kids are in bed I am so lonely its untrue. My family don't understand the depression and anxiety, or they don't want to understand it; as long as I'm available to run errands and babysite then there's nothing wrong with me!! I am that lonely that I was going to change my username on NMP to "Billy No Mates"!!

I wish I had a true friend who I could talk to and who could understand me, but sometimes when I'm feeling really low I probably wouldn't want to talk that much, but would expect someone to kinda read my mind and to know how I'm feeling because I believe we should all have a friend or soulmate and we should be that person back to them.

At least you will meet lots of lovely people on NMP and get lots of good advice and you can always go in "chat". It's something I have never done as yet as I don't have access in the evenings, but am working on it!

Good luck and take care.

Les x

[Oceanblue]

I'm happy to chat to you both, do you have MSN ?

I will PM you with my address, feel free to add me if you wish .

xxx

[Elly 2]

Hi Helenclaire if you want to private message me please do I would love to chat as am in same position as you

Elly

[kellie]

hiya helen i would love to be your friend and talk to you. plz come into chat plz dont be shy everyone will make you very welcome. i also have msn if you do and would like to talk on there pm me your msn address and ill be happy to add you and then chat with you. you are never alone here hun i hope you can remember that. a little about me im 37 with 3 teenage girls i live in the west midlands. take care helen .

kellie

[amandaj]

hi i got hardly any friends either so feel free to add me to msn i can pm you addie if you want xxx

[Dave777]

Hi Helen, hope you make lots of friends here, feel free to chat.

Davex

[sheba2]

Hi Helen.

Oh yes having agorophobia is a lonely place. I still have some friends but I moved away from everyone 4 years ago because I was going downhill and finding the pressure of making excuses as to why I couldn't do things really hard. I felt so guilty. Since living here in south lincs I haven't made any friends. I've met some really nice people but because of the agrophobia I could never commit to anything. I even find talking on the phone difficult because I feel trapped. I also think that when you have panic/anxiety you sort of live in your own head so much that it is difficult to find a place for someone else. Since telling the few people I know that I have agorophobia things have improved a little and I am beginning to make friends with one person. I am hoping to go to one of the get togethers in a few weeks as I am really in need of some extra human contact. I'm going to be travelling quite a way but I'm quite determined to give it a try. Have you thought of trying this. Please feel able to pm me . I get really excited when someone does as it is often the only personal contact that I have outside of home. Sad but true.

[chalky]

Hi Helenclaire,

The responses so far show that things are changing!!



You will ALWAYS have friends here.
PM any time and I'll tell you what it's like being a married man with three kids,a dog and a mortgage!!
Best wishes,
Chalky

[aarcal]

Know how you feel, had a couple of friends but lost them when i had kids and am quite shy and am terrible at making friends.

pm me if you's like a chat anytime

susie