Originally Posted by
countrygirl
My husband is 55 yrs old and we have been married for 28 yrs. As a child he displayed with hindsight characteristics which nowadays would have been diagnosed as an autism spectrum disorder but back then was just very shy!
He has always had a terror of people and as he gets older he is getting much worse. He literally avoids contact with people and as he is self employed from home he can do this which is not helping. I have to be responsible for everything to do with running a business, all personal things. He is incredibly indecisive for example in a supermarket he cannot choose a checkout if I am there in case he gets the wrong one. This does come from a childhood of never being good enough ( long story!) so he is convinced that eveyrthing he does will be wrong and he will be told off.
He cannot cope with the slightest irritability on anyones part towards him which makes my life a bit difficult as I cannot be normal. He has twice in his life attempted to end his life and has been taking prozac which has helped alot for past 6 years.
mental health services can offer nothing as he cannot bear to talk to someone he doesn't know.
He accepts avoidance is making him worse and worse and we are trying to come up with a strategy where he slowly and in very small ways has to deal with people.
Has anyone any experience of how to take this forward or any therapies that are available. A psychiatrist only offered powerful drugs or CBT which he won't have as it involves a stranger.
He is fine with close friends once he gets to know them up to a point but they know nothing of his problems just that he is incredibly shy!!!!!!!!
There is no support anywhere for spouses of people with mental health disorders is there?????