I badly need some advice and stuff. i don't know what to do. I have no job, hardly any friends and i have an obsession that has totally taken over to the point where i can't focus on anything else or function. I won't go into details about the obsession i've posted about it before. all that i need to say is that i've had the obsession for over 3 years and its just as strong now as it was at the start. Apart from the obsession i have little else in my life atm and i have put all my focus and energy into the obession [its with a guy i know on the net] I know i could start taking steps to change, cut back my net time, try to focus on other things like joining clubs to meet new friends or find a job or attend college. But i just have no idea where to begin, i've been hiding away in my room so long i don't know where to begin and i am finding it hard to get motivated to do anything other than focus on the net and this guy. its almost like i don't think there is any point trying. its making me really unhappy and i'm tired of it now its gone on long enough but its an addiction like any other. it becomes destructive and makes you unhappy but yet you can't live without it.
i just feel really empty and like there's no purpose to life anymore. sometimes i seriously think of ending it all. i've tried to sleep tonight but i keep waking up startled like i've had a bad dream and feeling anxious. i want to cry cos i find that soothing for a while but i can't even cry anymore. i tend to sit up all night watching dvds and then sleep all day and i find it an effort to get myself washed and dressed so i don't even bother at times
what can i do? i know there's stuff i could do to start improving things but its so hard to get focused and motivated. i'm scared too. i could have gone to a job club for the unemployed yesturday morning. it runs every week and i keep intending to go. yesturday i got up early to go and then i started messing about putting it off until it was too late to go its this obsession that is the biggest problem. its there 24/7, its completely taken over. even when i try to go out and do stuff and meet people its still there eating away at me. i've tried to seek help but the nhs keep fobbing me off. i had counselling which hasn't helped in the longrun. i honestly don't know what to do about the obsession or about anything else. i know that i'm young and i have many years ahead of me and i can't live them all like this. this has gone on for 8 years now since i left school. i'm deeply unhappy and lonely and anxious. its a nightmare