worried about the future and dying
I've been doing very well the last year or so. Increased the number of things I can do greatly, including going to the cinema and eating out and even eating out with people I never met before.
So why is it that I lay in bed the other night and all of a sudden I was worried about my death. Not the fact that I will die, obviously that will happen eventually. Or even how my daughter and husband will cope, which is sometimes I often think about, but not in an anxious way (if you know what I mean). But last night I had a pain, decided it was a cancerous tumour and that I would die. Having successfully talked myself out of that one.... I then had a sudden thought that what if my death means being in hospital for long time, or not being in control (that again!) of pain, or life generally.
This was followed by butterflies, giant ones, going hot & cold, palpitations and the other usual suspects. I was trying not to think about it but wondering what the end of my life will be like in relation to the panic. How will I get away? I feel I probably will still have the PAs then as they have been with me for about 4 years now. Coping with death itself is not a problem its the claustrophobia involved. How strange.
Does anyone else have worries like this? Apart from not letting myself think about it (which has been working so far during the day anyway), and distracting myself a lot what else can I do?
Writing this I am having to remind myself to breathe properly, and lower my shoulders (doing it now). Is there anything I should be doing to make this go away. I thought depression was bad having had it on and off for 20 years now, but I'd rather have that over which I was sometimes able to have more control, than this debilitating, sneaking up on you, restricting, sickening, uncontrollable, incomprehensible PANIC!
Please excuse my waffling, but I feel sad, frustrated and upset (and worried) to feel I might have this forever.
Trying to be positive.... not easy right now.
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Lisa.
Twenty years from now you will be more disappointed by the things that you didn't do than by the ones you did do.So sail away from the safe harbor. Explore. Dream. Discover.