Hi ladies and Gents. I suffer from O.C.D and Health Anxiety. I do have a fear of bad things happening to my family also. Suffering at the moment with some pain which is in another post but whilst I am on here awaiting replies of advice.. I would like to know if there is anyone that feels like me or am I just over sensative.
My next door neighbour I had known for 24 yrs..she was 50.. she was funny.. lively... and caring.. we were friends.. but we were not in and out of each others houses or knew alot about each others lives if you know what I mean.. we would sometimes talk in passing or shut each others curtains if we went away.. that kind of thing. If anything.. i am the one who wears my heart on my sleeve.. she really kept her feelings and life to herself.
Three months ago.. I saw an ambulance out the front.. they were in next door and I figured it was my neighbours mum because she was getting on and sometimes visited and I knew she had just had a operation.. but eventually it became very clear it wasnt her mum.. it was my friend. She had collapsed and died in the house.. alone.. and later that evening it was confirmed she had cervical cancer. She didnt know.. she apparently had been bleeding but we think she thought she was going through the change.. she never had a smear test in her life.. infact never visited a doctor if she could help it. I was devestated. Absolutley devestated. Three months on.. I still cannot belive it. She had so much energy.. she wouldnt walk up the stairs she would run.. or she would run out the street to the shops.. now shes gone. Im having a hard time with it. I think about her constantly. I try not to.. and then I tell myself its ok to think about her.. but then I think about such a lively happy funny person is no more and it kills me. Its not that I am worried about cervical cancer.. I have my smear tests.. I just cant get over the fact shes gone.. so quick.. I just want it to stop.. its like im thinking too deeply. I went to see her because her family asked me to go.. I thought that might help me over accepting it.. omg.. worst thing i ever did... I kid you not.. i was a wreck afterwards.. I did not sleep good for seven weeks and i went to bed with the light on every night. Ive lost people before.. I gave birth to a baby boy who was still born 16 yrs ago.. i lost my father.. but why has my friends death really really affected me this way? we werent really close or anything like that. I would appreciate your views.
Nicky