this might not make sense but please bear with me. i've never really experienced the loss of a loved one personally, the closest i've come is losing a few beloved pets. however, today a friend has lost her Dad, very suddenly to swine flu. He came down with it at the end of last week, was admitted to ITU at the weekend and died in the early hours of this morning, and obviously I am devastated for my friend who is 22, and her family. have also just found out that another friend from the same group of people's mother has got cancer and is terminal and has just been admitted to hospital on oxygen and with a DNR, they don't think she will live much longer. She hadn't told us this before today and it has come as a big shock. And again, I am so sad for my friend. Have just been sat here sobbing for the past hour. I just don't understand. Why do these things happen? The fact that everyone is going to die is just a fact that I cannot hold in my head without feeling like I'm going to explode. I'm sure before I suffered with anxiety and panic attacks I would have been able to deal with these situations in a much more calm and adult way. I just want to be able to cope with things like this rather than falling to pieces. And I know it's not even directly affecting me, it's not like it's my Mum or Dad and I feel really selfish for being this way. I am having therapy at the moment and will definitely be discussing this in my next session. Just need to know I'm not alone here and if what I'm feeling is normal. Am feeling so so upset and anxious xx