Hi Everyone,
I am so nervous and anxious I can hardly breath. I have to face a huge nemesis next week and I know that this challenge will either make me or break me.
I have to attend a training course for 5 days starting next Wednesday (5.4.05) and finishing the following Tuesday. It's an Adoption Training Course for myself and my husband. We both have to attend. If we don't complete the full course then we have to wait until our names are put on the next training session, which could be months away.
I am so anxious I could scream. It's only Sunday morning and I awoke at 3.00 a.m. this morning with the usual churning stomach, the rushing to the toilet. I am so sick and tired of this cycle of fear. I know that it's fear that I am frightened of. The feeling of being frightened on this course, so frightened that I have to leave during the day to rush home.
I find it really hard at the moment to be away from home for long periods and this course is from 9.30 a.m. - 4.30 p.m. I just don't know how I am going to manage. I know my husband will be with me and he knows that I am going to be extremely nervous and anxious and I think he is expecting me to have a panic attack either en route to the venue or whilst I am there. The trouble is, a lot is riding on us finishing this course and I feel so much pressure to not be ill and not to let the fear take over during the day.
The thing is with me, I cannot sit still for long periods of time doing nothing because that is when my thoughts take over. They rise and rise like Lego blocks until eventually they have to fall over and that's total panic for me. I need to remain active, I need something to do, and if I'm just sitting in this course just listening to someone talk, I find it so hard to concentrate on what they are saying because my mind wanders so much.
Avoidance in this situation is totally out of the question. I cannot cancel or not go. Part of me doesn't want to do that because then my fear and panic have won again. I feel that I should test myself with this, just to see how much I can actuallly do.
I have spoken to my GP about this and I have told him that I know that my Diazepam will be making an appearance on every single day of this course and he was fine with this but he doesn't want me to become reliant on these pills.
The sense of achievement that I will feel when and if I finish this course will be tremendous. I think I'll need to sleep for the rest of the week just through pure nervous exhaustion !
I really really want to do this but it's just so hard. I'm predicting what will happen and feeling every single symptom of my panic even before anything has happened.
I know that I need to stay focused and I need to concentrate and not make a total fool of myself. Anyone got any further suggestions. I really am open to anything.
I have just finished reading Claire Weekes Book Self Help for your Nerves and I have taken some of her suggestions on board, but the churning of the stomach and the running to the loo are still two major things that I have to conquer.
PLEASE HELP ANYONE. I CAN'T STOP CRYING.
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