Hi Heather
I am glad you were both able to sit down and have a chat about things and work out what is and isn't working.
It can be hard for non-anxious/depressed people to understand what it is like for us. Have you tried giving him some information from the home pages here to read?
Are you receiving therapy at present? If so, would you boyfriend go with you and speak to your therapist with you to gain a greater understanding.
There is also Relate if you think some joint counselling might help.
I hope it works out for you.
Karen
Happiness is not a state to arrive at but a manner of travelling.
You only live once, but if you do it right, once is enough ~ Christine Cagney, Cagney & Lacey