i turned down theropy

[KeeKee]

Do they not have any other therapy to try? I personally found CBT to be pointless, was constantly told to do things I didn't feel able to do and when I said if i could do that I wouldnt be here I was told I wasn't willing to change etc. I'd even had suggestions that I just let those within my household make a mess and not pick up after themselves so it wouldnt annoy me!!

There is more than just CBT though. Even counselling could help as it's getting things off your chest.

[Bigboyuk]

Do they not have any other therapy to try? I personally found CBT to be pointless, was constantly told to do things I didn't feel able to do and when I said if i could do that I wouldnt be here I was told I wasn't willing to change etc. I'd even had suggestions that I just let those within my household make a mess and not pick up after themselves so it wouldnt annoy me!!

There is more than just CBT though. Even counselling could help as it's getting things off your chest.

KeeKee I think tbh if you are being 'Told' to do some thing this can be negative, how ever suggesting to try certain things is another matter, just some times we have to step out our comfort zone only if it's briefly, just to get a feel of what it's like. And think the therapist was right to suggest don't clean up after everyone else other wise they will come to accept it oh well we can make a mess as KeeKee will clean up after us Go figure! And yes there is much more therapy out there, other than CBT Cheers

[KeeKee]

Bigboy he didn't tell me not to pick up after them (I don't anyway) he told me just to expect them to make a mess etc then it won't bother me. But I did expect them to make a mess (and still do in regards to my daughter), they do/did make a mess and it does still annoy me. Nobody should ever have to put up with other people's mess in their own home in my opinon.

And as for stepping outside my comfort zone I do this every single day by means of going to the school, meeting relative for coffee, popping to asda etc for groceries, putting on a 'happy' face around relatives.

The things my therapist suggested were things like walking 5 miles alone to the beach which I refused. I wouldnt have even done that prior to my anxiety and as for going to the beach even though I'd already said I can't stand the place, felt like he was just trying to get me to do things for the sake of it.

I was also told to tie my hair up in front of him and tell him how it made me feel. Considering I haven't tied my hair up in front of anybody for over a decade, that simply wasn't going to happen. I was made to feel like a failure many times and that is not good therapy. I feel like they have no heart either you sit there crying and they just look at you like you're daft.

My last therapist was much better, no making me feel like a loser and she was very empathetic.

[Bigboyuk]

Bigboy he didn't tell me not to pick up after them (I don't anyway) he told me just to expect them to make a mess etc then it won't bother me. But I did expect them to make a mess (and still do in regards to my daughter), they do/did make a mess and it does still annoy me. Nobody should ever have to put up with other people's mess in their own home in my opinon.

And as for stepping outside my comfort zone I do this every single day by means of going to the school, meeting relative for coffee, popping to asda etc for groceries, putting on a 'happy' face around relatives.

The things my therapist suggested were things like walking 5 miles alone to the beach which I refused. I wouldnt have even done that prior to my anxiety and as for going to the beach even though I'd already said I can't stand the place, felt like he was just trying to get me to do things for the sake of it.

I was also told to tie my hair up in front of him and tell him how it made me feel. Considering I haven't tied my hair up in front of anybody for over a decade, that simply wasn't going to happen. I was made to feel like a failure many times and that is not good therapy. I feel like they have no heart either you sit there crying and they just look at you like you're daft.

My last therapist was much better, no making me feel like a loser and she was very empathetic.

Yes I see that and you are right, no one should have to put up with some one else's mess. Yes can see where you are coming from regarding this therapist I mean to say walk 5 miles on your own to the beach is not a good suggestion, would you consider this with a relative though? And think you are doing well coming out of your comfort zone daily this is great and is it helping somewhat? Can you not get back to see the your previous therapist especially as this current one isn't helping much? Cheers

[KeeKee]

Yes I see that and you are right, no one should have to put up with some one else's mess. Yes can see where you are coming from regarding this therapist I mean to say walk 5 miles on your own to the beach is not a good suggestion, would you consider this with a relative though? And think you are doing well coming out of your comfort zone daily this is great and is it helping somewhat? Can you not get back to see the your previous therapist especially as this current one isn't helping much? Cheers

No bigboy, doing these things each day doesn't help at all. Especially the school run, it is making me angry and bitter and I can't stand it. I've been doing it since October too so I doubt it will ever get easier.

No I wouldn't walk to the beach at all. There is absolutely no purpose in me going to the beach. My daughter and I do go for walks now and again, but none of my relatives would walk with me. It's not something anybody i know enjoys, we live in the North East and there isn't anything nice to walk past or to. Walks here means crossing road after road and walking past houses etc. I only like going for walks if it's dark or rainy and that's because I love the dark and rain. It seems people can't believe me when I say I simply do not enjoy being out and about, when I first moved to where I live now I was pretty confident, would walk to asda alone etc, but even then I had no interest in going for walks, going to the beach, socialising etc. It's just genuinely not me and never has been. I would say hello to my neighbours and if somebody spoke to me I certainly wouldnt ignore them, but once the conversation turns to personal questions that's enough. I don't want to discuss whether I work, whether I go out drinking, where I live or where I'm from with people I don't even know. That is huge part of my fear of interaction as quite frankly I feel like it's none of their business.

As for seeing the same therapist that isn't possible as I've been told they can't offer me any further treatment and have been referred elsewhere. The next therapist could be nice though and is hopefully sensitive as my next therapy will be centred more around my BDD.

As per usual I've gone on and on and on..............

[braindead]

Do they not have any other therapy to try? I personally found CBT to be pointless, was constantly told to do things I didn't feel able to do and when I said if i could do that I wouldnt be here I was told I wasn't willing to change etc. I'd even had suggestions that I just let those within my household make a mess and not pick up after themselves so it wouldnt annoy me!!

There is more than just CBT though. Even counseling could help as it's getting things off your chest.

talk therapy to 23-year-olds when i am 69 seems, i like the girl but i have a grand daughter her age telling your secrets just dont seem right , plus i am not sure i have any, carnt a person be bipolar and not want therapy i will still be bipolar

[Bike Rider]

The NHS Outlook team did me no good at all, made me worse in fact.

However a private counselor who was able to be forthright and honest with me, did me the world of good.

Advice like "Dont be such a bloody idiot, how can that happen, talk sense" did me the world of good coming from a stranger, rather than being molly coddled by family and Outlook.

But we are all different.

[braindead]

The NHS Outlook team did me no good at all, made me worse in fact.

However a private counselor who was able to be forthright and honest with me, did me the world of good.

Advice like "Dont be such a bloody idiot, how can that happen, talk sense" did me the world of good coming from a stranger, rather than being molly coddled by family and Outlook.

But we are all different.

I think i may have decked him talking like that to me but if it worked

[MyNameIsTerry]

I think i may have decked him talking like that to me but if it worked

Same here. Manners cost nothing but each to their own and some prefer a Doc Martin "you're fine, now get out!"