Originally Posted by
rainyblossom
Sorry if this isn't the right place I'm new here I just don't know what else to do, I am not comfortable talking about this to anyone I know, one because it makes me anxious and two because it's really stupid.
I'm putting off even writing it now because it's so dumb, I don't even want to tell strangers online but I really need help.
Since a young age I have no idea why but I've really feared haircuts there is literally nothing that makes me more uncomfortable I can't articulate it in a way that sound less ridiculous but I feel extreme anxiety towards the subject which when in the rare occasion I try to express it to people they think I'm being stupid because lets be honest it is but I feel physically sick and obsessively occupied by thoughts of it sometimes for weeks until it passes. Okay so for years that's fine, I mean not fine it sucks and I hate every moment of my life but apart you know it's only hurting me so that's fine because I don't matter. And that was that. But then I got a boyfriend. I've tried to express to him my feelings about it several times, just I don't like it, it makes me extremely uncomfortable and could you just not change your hair and I expressed to him how much I didn't want to feel it and if he wasn't happy with that to just tell me, it's the only thing I ever ask of him but he just doesn't get it. Probably no one else does either, but this time I've just been ignoring him so as not to have to talk to him again because I really do hate talking about it but I'm going to have to aren't I because you can't just ignore your boyfriend especially when he's friends with all your friends and your family keep asking how he is. I felt it was easier to do this but it's not fair to him but I don't know how to tell him in a way that doesn't sound horrendously rude like Oh I'm sorry I feel sick and shaky oh and it's because of you but he'll never understand how much it affects me otherwise. I'd rather die than continue having this cycle of feelings I'd rather die than have this ridiculous conversation over and over again I wish I could just feel nothing or just anything but this I''m so angry at myself.
I'm sorry :( I know noone can relate but I desperately need some help :(