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    Agoraphobia and anxiety

    I've had a couple of good(ish) weeks after having some time off work over the Easter break. Spent a lot of time with partner/family and I have managed to get out a bit and actually enjoy myself a little in the process

    So this morning I get up for work and the anxiety hits me like a ton of bricks. I am scared to go out of the door and back into the rat race....I cannot face this on my own. I wasted 2 hours of my morning 'trying' to be positive and telling myself not to let the fear beat me....but alas, it has

    I can't face the thought of stepping outside that door, I am consumed with feelings of fear, anxiety, depersonalisation, failure, etc. that I don't even recognise myself today. I have got myself so upset that I am 'trapped' here inside my world and I am a quivering wreck. Why can't I find the courage I need to get myself out? I know that by 'avoiding' I am fuelling the agoraphobia and making things worse, but I just don't have the strength to fight it today. I have let myself (and work) down and I am really upset as I had been doing quite well

    Does it always have to be 2 steps forward and 4 steps back??

    Thanks for listening.
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    Re: Agoraphobia and anxiety

    Hi kitti,

    Please don't be so hard on yourself and let this get you down.
    It seems to me that agoraphobia in particular allows us to beat ourselves up, by telling ourselves that 'we're not brave enough' and we're 'avoiding' things.. all negative self-talk that is incorrect and unhelpful!

    You haven't let yourself down at all.. You've tried and at worst have found out that it's a little soon a this moment in time. You'll get there in time.

    Now is the time to be kind to yourself.. please don't see this as a failure.

    PM me if you want
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    Re: Agoraphobia and anxiety

    Quote Originally Posted by MrRedShirt View Post
    Hi kitti,

    Please don't be so hard on yourself and let this get you down.
    It seems to me that agoraphobia in particular allows us to beat ourselves up, by telling ourselves that 'we're not brave enough' and we're 'avoiding' things.. all negative self-talk that is incorrect and unhelpful!

    You haven't let yourself down at all.. You've tried and at worst have found out that it's a little soon a this moment in time. You'll get there in time.

    Now is the time to be kind to yourself.. please don't see this as a failure.

    PM me if you want
    Thank you for your very kind words MrRed...you got me crying again lol. I think I need to have a good talk to myself today and look back at all the positives. I really appreciate your reply, thank you

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    Quote Originally Posted by Stormsky View Post
    hi
    Wana meet in chat room?
    Thank you Stormsky, I'm a little anxious about the chat room, not so good at that stuff and maybe not quite in the right frame of mind atm...but thank you for thinking of me and for the lovely thought. xxxx
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    Re: Agoraphobia and anxiety

    Quote Originally Posted by kittikat View Post
    Thank you for your very kind words MrRed...you got me crying again lol. I think I need to have a good talk to myself today and look back at all the positives. I really appreciate your reply, thank you

    You're welcome

    Just take it easy and make sure that good talk really is kind talk
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    Re: Agoraphobia and anxiety

    Hi K...


    May I post a poem that for me is so profound and really it says it all for me..


    Never Knowing Why

    The twinkling of stars on a stary night,
    Gabbling of geese as they take their flight,
    The passionate look from a lover’s eye,
    Oh, the graceful ballet of a butterfly.

    Living life on the edge, paving the way,
    Facing all challenges given to us each day,
    Your life on the line, to nurture not just try,
    Life's exciting surprises, injects a natural high.

    Though failure and sadness appear in your life;
    Then unhappiness cuts you just like a knife.
    "Where are all the good times," bemoans your cry;
    "Is life just so hard, and then you die????!!"

    Like the freshening feel of an ocean breeze,
    The colours of change from Autumns trees,
    And the feeling of peace as the days go by,
    Life's a dazzling puzzle; we'll just never know why.

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    Re: Agoraphobia and anxiety

    hi
    Wana meet in chat room?
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    Re: Agoraphobia and anxiety

    kitti
    nothing to be scared of in chat room, just like texting each other, and more instant than using posts... theres a help room, so can be just the 2 of us with no one else.. be brave and try it! you cant feel any worse, and you may even feel better for a chat, id like to help... i will be in chat room waiting !!!!!
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    Re: Agoraphobia and anxiety

    That is so beautiful DB......thank you very much.
    You got me crying again
    Kitti x
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    Re: Agoraphobia and anxiety

    Quote Originally Posted by kittikat View Post
    You got me crying again
    Kitti x
    Oh no that wasn't then intention !

    Your post could have been about me, I go through the same feelings....

    But it is just as the poem says, we just sometimes don't know why these things happen... experts can have as many theories as they want, give us all the advise and meds, therapies and sessions but it's still there, we still feel how we feel and can't find an wasy way to stop it.. and it's not because we don't want to or don't try it, it's simply because we just don't know why one day you can feel fine and the next day it all comes falling down... It happens to more people than we can ever imagine, but some are just lucky enough at being more masterful at controlling it.... I can't control it well because I myself am a deep thinker, thoughtful, sensative person and I think about it too much, I analyse because I want to understand it but no matter how much I try I just don't get any further than were I was... that's probably the problem though and I should just let it be...

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    Re: Agoraphobia and anxiety

    Quote Originally Posted by Deepest Blue View Post
    .... I can't control it well because I myself am a deep thinker, thoughtful, sensative person and I think about it too much, I analyse because I want to understand it but no matter how much I try I just don't get any further than were I was... that's probably the problem though and I should just let it be...
    I think that is my problem too.....Thanks again
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