A hard movable lump in lip ?

[jaroslav.prossv]

Oh, so he wants you to come back next Thursday does he, to be looked at again ? Well, then why do you not trust him, he's actually asked you to come back to spend more time with you. He thinks that its something that has been there 4 years, with no change, and therefore doesn't need to be seen as urgently as you think it does. Infact he's already said it is benign, so why are you returning? What is the context to this appointment - did you ask for an urgent appointment?


We see this type of query often on this forum. Along the lines of 'should I trust this doctor? he didn't spend long with me/didn't ask lots of questions/only looked quickly/laughed and then said it was nothing'. The fact is, and sorry to have to say this, as I know you are very worried, but to them it is so trivial - often they don't need more than a minute to look/feel, often don't need to ask anything else, are surprised that people turn up with such minor 'nothings' to be looked at. This is why HA sufferers come away feeling unresolved on issues, because in their mind it is a massive non-benign and concerning problem, to the specialist medic its quite the opposite. You have to see it from their side, away from your anxiety, if you can....

Ok thank you, but he said himself to come next thursday. I did not ask for that appointment, I am just wondering why, if he alreadyy said it is benign.

[Carys]

OK, yes, I see what you are getting at. What was the context of the appointment today - was it an emergency one?



You could have asked him, whilst you were there, why he's calling you back ? Or send a message to his secretary and ask ? (I know that some people are a bit shell-shocked and quiet and don't ask things at the time of the appointment)


Well, maybe he's calling you back because - he was obviously in a rush today, and probably could see you were really anxious, maybe he thinks he wants to spend more time with you explaining? Maybe (as today was about acute and serious cases) he wants to find out what benign condition is it ? Maybe he's going to offer to remove it for you? Maybe, maybe, maybe...


..but without having asked him, I guess its hard to know. I know this, doctors aren't in the habit of telling untruths to people and then changing the story later on. They either say 'they don't know' or give a definitive 'yes' or 'no'. Surely if he was concerned he would have said 'im not sure what it is, come back next Tuesday'.



I would try and find out why you are being called back.

[jaroslav.prossv]

OK, yes, I see what you are getting at. What was the context of the appointment today - was it an emergency one?



You could have asked him, whilst you were there, why he's calling you back ? Or send a message to his secretary and ask ? (I know that some people are a bit shell-shocked and quiet and don't ask things at the time of the appointment)


Well, maybe he's calling you back because - he was obviously in a rush today, and probably could see you were really anxious, maybe he thinks he wants to spend more time with you explaining? Maybe (as today was about acute and serious cases) he wants to find out what benign condition is it ? Maybe he's going to offer to remove it for you? Maybe, maybe, maybe...


..but without having asked him, I guess its hard to know. I know this, doctors aren't in the habit of telling untruths to people and then changing the story later on. They either say 'they don't know' or give a definitive 'yes' or 'no'. Surely if he was concerned he would have said 'im not sure what it is, come back next Tuesday'.



I would try and find out why you are being called back.

I dont know, dont want to call like this..but do you think that the statement that it is 100% benign is true and that I should not overthink this ?

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OK, yes, I see what you are getting at. What was the context of the appointment today - was it an emergency one?



You could have asked him, whilst you were there, why he's calling you back ? Or send a message to his secretary and ask ? (I know that some people are a bit shell-shocked and quiet and don't ask things at the time of the appointment)


Well, maybe he's calling you back because - he was obviously in a rush today, and probably could see you were really anxious, maybe he thinks he wants to spend more time with you explaining? Maybe (as today was about acute and serious cases) he wants to find out what benign condition is it ? Maybe he's going to offer to remove it for you? Maybe, maybe, maybe...


..but without having asked him, I guess its hard to know. I know this, doctors aren't in the habit of telling untruths to people and then changing the story later on. They either say 'they don't know' or give a definitive 'yes' or 'no'. Surely if he was concerned he would have said 'im not sure what it is, come back next Tuesday'.



I would try and find out why you are being called back.

Yeah the context of todays appointent was an emergency...he said that they always book people in advance for "non-accute" stuff. Which I understand, but still worried because he said to come back.

[Fishmanpa]

He said its definitaly nothing serious and benign and even laughed.

You made a specialist laugh. That speaks volumes!

Positive thoughts

[Carys]

Yeah the context of todays appointent was an emergency...he said that they always book people in advance for "non-accute" stuff. Which I understand, but still worried because he said to come back.

Well, to be honest I'm not surprised he laughed, sorry.....but after 4 years of something being there you booked an emergency appointment ? He made it clear to you whilst you were there that you had booked the wrong appointment, and emergencies are for serious issues or acute problems. He has said its benign and not serious and laughed, I personally believe doctors yes, for the reasons I have stated above.



What do you mean 'don't want to call like this?' You didn't ask at the time, but why not ask now after the time.

[Bigboyuk]

Yeah but he still said I should come neck thursday. I think its my HA, or ust overthinking it.

I think it's both in your case, perhaps look in to getting help for your HA as when this current worry subsides another will take it's place and so on etc. There is no logical reason to doubt your dr, 1. If he was unsure then he would have made a referral to a specialist. Dr's don't become a dr in 12 months many years is spent training and they are professional in what they do, take comfort in this ATB

[Carys]

If he was unsure then he would have made a referral to a specialist

He did see the specialist, a very good one apparently. (apologies if I said He and it should be She, as I don't recognise the gender of your name)

[jaroslav.prossv]

He did see the specialist, a very good one apparently. (apologies if I said He and it should be She, as I don't recognise the gender of your name)

I just remembered that when I came to visit him I said "I found this lump and I want to find out what it is". Perhaps he was reffering to this and wants to make the correct diagnosis.

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I think it's both in your case, perhaps look in to getting help for your HA as when this current worry subsides another will take it's place and so on etc. There is no logical reason to doubt your dr, 1. If he was unsure then he would have made a referral to a specialist. Dr's don't become a dr in 12 months many years is spent training and they are professional in what they do, take comfort in this ATB

Ok thanks

[nomorepanic]

Hi

This is just a courtesy reply to let you know that your thread was merged with another of your threads.

Please when posting on similar topics add it onto your previous post rather than starting a new one.

It is nothing personal it is just to make it easier for people to follow your story and to give you advice as a whole.

[Bigboyuk]

He did see the specialist, a very good one apparently. (apologies if I said He and it should be She, as I don't recognise the gender of your name)

Oh Missed that that's even better news really HA is such a tricker making you doubt constantly that something is seriously wrong when it isn't. My apologies ATB