I guess I'm dealing with both grief, and emotional rejection, and I have attachment trauma, but more to the point, I have emotional numbness, but shrinks have repeatedly not followed the literature of how to cure it, as in that of Laurence Heller.
As I see it, to forgive my mother, is to give up both control of her, and myself, and I refuse to do so. Folks say that it isn't, but I don't believe it.
I don't trust others, because they don't give me a reason to change my calculus, but it is emotionally held.
I guess that I can reframe things, however; I have an idea, and I think I'll try it.