Lonliness is killing me

[jennybrown2009]

Hang in there it gets better.

I feel like that sometimes. i have just come out of a relationship where i might of well of been on my own and im the same with regards to the calls mate. my mates only text me if i text them first and i know its had but sometimes it takes us to make the first move to get out there. text your mate just saying not heard from you in a while how are things mate and see what happens if you still dont here of them then its time to find new mates mate. like Ryan said get your self on a dating site mate even if its just to find freinds in your area. try face book mate that helped me find friends.

Jenny

[STEPHYUNO]

Hi mate, I can totally relate to what you have described and it is increasingly common these days especially for guys around our age, so please don,t feel in any way different because it has a lot to do with our society and not just you as an individual. I have and still do experience this feeling, coupled with a bleak veiw of any future, however this is not as strong or frequent as it was, which brings me onto a few things that has helped me and can maybe help you too. I must stress at first because of the way I was feeling these suggestions felt a bit of an effort, but experience has shown me that they really can give you a better feeling of worth and help you socialise.

Suggestions are thinking about what you have some interest in or want to learn about and look for classes in it, for example I go to the gym once a week and on another day do a fitness class, the council and leisure centres have lots of different classes, maybe you could do an art related thing or whatever you have interest in there will probably be something you can do in it that isn,t expensive, builds your self confidence up and by it,s nature means you are interacting with others with similar interests.

I know it can be hard mate, but try and get yourself out there and find things that can help you help yourself, instead of dwelling on what,s not there, who knows where it may lead, all the very best Steph.