As many on here know I have a very difficult relationship with my other half.
He treats me like crap and I put up with it (I'm not perfect though and I also speak to him like crap at times). Time after time after time. I'm well and truly sick of it. I am so weak that I'm too scared to end it and be left alone.
Besides our daughter my partner comes before anybody. I love him to death and would die or kill for him should such an extreme situation occur. However this never feels reciprocated. We've been together a little over 11 years and no talk of marriage and engagement has ever come up.
Today he isn't speaking to me yet again because I wasn't happy that he wasn't meeting me today (one minute he wasn't, the next he's snapping saying he didn't say he wasn't). Now I do have depression/anxiety etc and do feel worthless and like people don't like me, but I know when somebody can't be bothered with me and it seems my partner is like this more often than ever. We don't sleep together and I'm finding it very frustrating. I don't get why a healthy man in their late 20's wouldn't want to sleep with their long term partner, whom they supposedly find attractive.
I know I should walk, leave it all behind me and move on but I'm so scared of being alone. I sit about all day by myself as leaving the house is very difficult. Due to my depression I'm not very pleasant to be around, for example I hate the sun, don't like going for walks (unless it's dark or raining), hate the beach etc, get really agitated with loud noise, not interested in small talk and so on, so I'm worried I'll never be able to make friends. I do love animals but in 'real life' I don't know anybody who shares this with me.
Even putting the bins out is very difficult, I hate it so much. I feel like an outsider where I live, even though I've lived here 9 years now. I hate my house, my garden etc. I'm so unhappy. It's very shallow but I am constantly looking at my appearance in mirrors I HATE the way I look (I have BDD) and feel like if I separated from my partner I'd be single for the rest of my life which is very upsetting as I really crave intimacy, lately more than ever.
I'm ashamed to admit I don't really do much housework either. I wash dishes and clothes and change the cat litter etc but that is it. I rarely hoover, I never dust or polish. I have zero pride in my house. I have plaster on my walls from when I had a boiler but in 2 years ago and still haven't painted it. I have no push to do anything. I'm sick of it all.
My partner was with me when I was at my best physically and mentally, and it still wasn't enough. I'm now at my lowest mentally and physically I'm really out of shape (not overweight but no muscle tone at all) and look knackered with dark circles that do not seem to go away even for a day. I feel like I'm about to crack.
I recently finished my third lot of therapy. I feel lost and don't know where to go from here.