Hello!
I figure many of you know me since I used to post here a lot. Basically I got my recent DPDR episode in 21st of November, 2016 due to marijuana. And guess what, i recovered for full summer and felt just like before. At first I never believed that would be possible, but once I snapped out of DPDR, everything felt so good, happy, calm and I felt truly alive.
However, school started this september, causing another episode. It might sound bad, but this episode actually made me get a clear picture of what DPDR is and how it works. I spent like 6 months researching DPDR and talking to a therapist, gainig many clues and understanding about DPDR, but I never could get things to make a clear picture. Now, due to this episode, I can say that now I understand DPDR 100% almost.
Alright, so let's start with a thing called "attachment theory" which basically explains how newborn children develop attachment that they use even im adulthood. People with DPDR have insecure attachment which causes these Problems. Basically, I made like a small essay about this so I'll post it below.
My lifetime experience with DPDR.
Disclaimer: I am not a therapist or medical profesional so everything I write here might not be correct, it is just how I have made sense of thinks from my own experience.
I am sure everyone is familiar with DPDR here. That debilitating and borderline scary feeling and that crazy anxiety people with DPDR experience. It is truly a shocking condition and I am deeply sorry to anyone experiencing it.
To start, what I've found out in my years long journey with DPDR was revolutionary for me. It took me years to understand what DPDR is and how it functions and I am willing to share this with anyone suffering.
It all starts with attachment, a system that we as newborn children develop in order to survive. During the ancient human societies, survival was hard and everyone had to adapt to survive, even children. Attachment works pretty simple. Imagine you're a 1 year old child living in an ancient hunter gatherer society. Danger comes from every direction and to survive, your parents must take good care for you. Imagine let's say there's a bear attacking you. Your body fills with cortisol, main anxiety hormone and you start experiencing panic and all of those weird symptoms you already know. Your mind acts to protect you with that response, urging you to scream, cry, shout to call your parents for help. Then, if you get saved by your parents, your anxiety and those weird symptoms go away. If you don't however get any help and you are left to face your danger alone, your child mind dissociates from the situation as it seeks a solution to your pain. Basically, your mind finds dissociation as an escape when there is no escape. Of course most of us who suffer DPDR were never in a situation where a bear attacked and there was no help. For you, this DPDR response might have been caused by you as a 1 year old child getting scared from a toy that has caused you to cry. Since your parents might not have been there for you, you might have dissociated from the situation since you were afraid and there was no solution to that fear and DPDR was activated. If this problem, where you were left alone in case of danger and were forced to dissociate, happened often, you might have developed DPDR disorder, which means that DPDR is your default coping method in case of stressful situations.
At first hand, DPDR feelings might seem odd, scary and irrational to you. It felt like that to me at first too, but I began digging deeper into them, understanding what they really meant. That anxiety you experience during DPDR is your driving force to seek a carer, your parent, which by default is your secure base.
For me it usually occurs like this. Something triggers my anxiety (being in a new place, smoking weed, meeting new people, going to school or anything that could be considered by your mind as dangerous environment.). At first, the anxiety is just there as it acts like a driving force for me to seek safety, to seek my secure base. If I do not satisfy this anxiety, it just keeps growing and growing, until your mind understands that it won't end most likely so it gives you DPDR dissociation symptoms as an attempt to find an escape from the situation. This is the reason why when your DPDR hits, you usually feel cut off from the external world or yourself and everything might seem alien to you. Naturally, this is your minds attempt to cut you off from the painful environment.
To counter this negative effect, you must fix your insecure attachment style and form a secure base.
To dig deeper, both DP and DR are kind of similar in their function and are treated similarly. DP occurs when there is an internal threat to your personality that your mind choses to dissociate from. Example could be a homosexual person living in a family that would deny the person's homosexuality, causing the person become frustrated and dissociating from that part of self, causing a rupture in sense of self. DR occurs when a threat is more external, for example when you experience anxiety and your attachment style activates DR in order to dissociate from that external threat.
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Basically, the solution to DPDR is forming a secure attachment and a secure internal base. This internal base is like internalized feeling of safety. Most of us, dont even have this secure base or have it in relation to people.
Basically, the reason why I felt good and DPDR free this summer was because I never encountered any unexpected things. I could stay at home all day if I wanted. I could freely do anything I wanted. However, when school started, I had to mandatory go there, meaning my attachment activated since my mind took school as a threat, same as weed. When I am at school, I feel like I will die from the anxiety, but when I get home and meet my parents, guess what. My anxiety and DPDR goes to 90% cured. This is because I don't have an internal base and my secure base is my family.
Basically, I tried to explain this as reasonably as possible, ask me questions if something is not understandable.