I've not been here for a while; things had been going really well for me.
But 3 mths ago, my husbands cousin moved over here from the States and we began spending lots of time together, as he didn't know anyone and is a recovering alcoholic and i didn't want him to feel lonely. However, i have started to fall in love with him and we started an affair (kind of/not quite at the physical stage). I was not looking for someone else, i love my husband and although we do have some problems, we're generally really happy and have a great life. We have spend the last few weeks trying to stay away from each other and then 2 weeks ago, my best friend told me she was starting to have feelings for the cousin herself and i just flipped. It totally thrown me and i'm so jealous and had no idea i felt so strongly about him. Its such a mess, as i can't encourage her to go for it and i can't tell her not to either. He is also not helping as he won't not see her for my sake. So now, we're not seeing each other and he has been on one date with my best friend and it's brought back my anxiety and such a huge depressive mood. I can't talk to anyone at all about any of this, as i don't want my husband to find out. And also i am having to avoid my friend and i feel terrible about everything. I have never done anything like this before and its v out of character for me. I don't know what to do. I don't know how to get past all these overwhelming feelings. Plus,i don't deserve to be happy after what i've done, i've brought it all on myself, so how can i possibly get over this? Before when i felt bad & guilty about feeling bad, i managed to feel better by trying not to blame myself, but that isn't working. For the first time in battling with anxiety/depression for 25 years i've actually had suicidal thoughts and that in itself is scaring me. I know i don't deserve anyone's sympathy, but i just needed to get this out. And if anyone has any ideas of what i do from here, i'd really appreciate it.