Re: Do any of you have intrusive thoughts?
That's great, thanks Terry.
Your posts have really helped, thank you for taking the time to reply to me. I know i shouldn't reassurance seek but sometime you need to hear you're not alone in it and trust it is anxiety causing the thoughts.
I love mindfulness and how you describe knowing it was helping you gives me hope that in time I will feel that way too and I will see my thoughts differently to how I do now.
The thing I struggle with is that I am still scared of the thoughts meaning I am suffering with something far worse than anxiety. I still get the thoughts and sometimes the image in my head with the thought and I feel very on edge around those I am having the thoughts about. It's tough at times, I just wish I knew how to react better. I have tried so many times to just let them be there, and be ok with them but it's hard when you're a mum. I feel very on edge with the thoughts around.
Thanks again for helping me out
Bon
Originally Posted by
MyNameIsTerry
It again makes sense though if you think about it Bon, anxiety knows when to pull the trigger as it knows our weak points. This is why its so important not to run from that situation or avoid it later because it will reinforce itself off that.
I'm glad to hear a GP say that, it sounds like yours has some experience dealing with this.
In the NICE guidelines they tend to try therapy first and combined therapy with meds later. Anxiety can be severe enough to stop therapy getting anywhere so by introducing a med they bring the anxiety down just enough to give you that control back so you can progress through therapy. So, I think it was the same principle with my issues, reduce the one propping up all the rest and you get enough control back to work under your own steam.
When these thoughts come, don't judge them and use the curious awareness Mindfulness teaches. If you are new to it, it will come with practice.
I didn't feel it working for over a month and then I started thinking slightly differently about things and it went from there. I had some eureka moments too where things just seemed to click and I understood. I can remember when I was out walking once and just felt like I wanted to sit on a grass bank next to a stream. I sat, felt the grass, watched the insects, listened to the birds, etc. I felt the free and I hadn't felt that in years. It happened a few times that week and then not again but ever since I have had lesser feelings of that freedom and felt more comfortable. After 6 months I suddently felt my attitude change to greater compassion too.
If you want a weird example of a moment of realisation, I have one. I suddenly felt quite woosy and thought I had better head to the toilet downstairs as I felt sick. When I got there I ended up on my knees being sick and the strangest thing happened, I felt a thought come that said "ah, so this is how nausea truly feels and how you would be sick" and from that day on I have never had my nausea issues again. I had a stomach bug for the next few days and despite that I felt somewhat pleased due to this realisation.
I still get the odd bit of nausea but its not due to anxiety anymore.
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Thank you NoPoet.
That's what I have been told, these thoughts are the opposite of who we are and that should reassure me that I am not my thoughts. I also was told everyone gets them. I think that's true but mine have lasted 16 months and been daily. I may have less anxiety surrounding them now but I do wonder why I can't be fully ok with them.
Bon
Originally Posted by
NoPoet
What we need to keep in mind is that intrusive thoughts upset us so much because they are the opposite of what we really want. The emotional distress comes from our rejection of these thoughts, but because we fight so hard against them, our subconscious keeps projecting them; it's like a dog fetching a stick that you're trying to chuck away.
Try to keep in mind that intrusive thoughts exist for everyone, whether or not they're ill, but people with anxiety issues treat the thoughts seriously instead of simply thinking "What the hell was THAT crap?"
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Thank you very much Harvestmouse.
Mine have always been about myself and my family, I find it very difficult to be ok about them. I've also had them for 16 months now, I have less anxiety around them but I am still scared by them somewhat which is frustrating.
Bon
Originally Posted by
theharvestmouse
Yes I have them, they can be very scary but they are thoughts and even though they are there they are not controlling us, they pass.
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