New here, joined because I need advise.
I have recently started a new job, been here 6 weeks.
I left my previous job because it was a poisonous environment - the actual job I loved - but the people were nasty and it was like being in school. Everyone would slate each other and the girl I worked with directly was a nasty piece of work, always putting me down and making nasty comments. I grew to ignore it, but the last 3 months of that job I would cry on my drive home. Enough was enough, I didn't want to be belittled everyday of my life, so I found a new job. I was trying to remain strong.
my mother died 5 years ago and it hit me hard, I was put on anti depressants etc and didn't want to be that bullied person anymore (I was bullied throughout school - from start to finish - even at uni - because I didn't drink or listen to latest hits or fit in).
So my new job is a fresh start.
Well, not great. I am always being ignored or excluded - a girl started same time as me and she fit in straight away.
Again, I don't. I am studying Chemistry as a hobby on the side, and I prefer to listen to BBC Radio 3 over Radio 1, and this has sort of given them a skewed impression of me.
I find myself talking to thin air, being ignored when I make a comment or give an idea.
I had hoped that once everyone grew up, and left school, this sort of behaviour stopped.
I'm not a bad person, I am assertive (more so than before) but not OTT, I have come out of my shell. I have different tastes to someone of my age, so maybe it is that, and I don't want to change what I like or do for others. But it is hard, I find myself nearly in tears because I can't take it. If I try and ask a question, I don't even get eye contact, just completely blanked, like no one has asked a question. At lunch, everyone goes off and I don't get an invite.
This wouldn't bother me, but I am starting to feel like something is wrong with me and the symptoms have returned - aching chest, aching hands etc.
How can I deal with this?