Originally Posted by
nikkinik
I can relate to this and I'd also say it doesn't seem like an ott reaction if I'm honest... Not necessarily an anxiety issue either, it's just 5years worth of stuff that's dragged you down by the sounds of it.
We lived in between some scummy neighbours.. So scummy in fact that we couldn't even sell the place when we needed to and took a massive hit on the selling price.. Noise, shouting, parking so we couldn't get on our own drive, dumping anything and everything out the back, their old furniture on our driveway, putting their rubbish in our bins..generally rude, lazy, selfish ppl..
It became a thing pretty quickly, like turning a certain corner on the drive home and then starting to think "will I be able to park my car outside my own house..." Will there be music later on, will they have dumped something outside, will they be outside smoking (then giving dirty looks as we pass).. Just general things that make you outright stressed, it can easily leave you anxious and then it probably drip feeds into other things, wondering when the peace and quiet will be broken, what will be the next thing etc etc - which is probably where you are now.
Have you written him a polite note, some people perhaps don't realise what they're doing. Try that. Keep a record of what you've tried and when btw.
If you're outside of the situation and everything is ok I'd say there's little to worry about as far as your mental state is concerned iykwim, you've just got a selfish twit for a neighbour(!)
If this doesn't resolve itself is there any chance of moving, or even staying at a friends for a bit to give your nerves a break?