Please delete my account.

[Bigboyuk]

Well, the fact that crushed me more was one thread some time ago that wasn't as well phrased as I liked, yet I had a few members and a mod quick to lay into me and that made me feel shitty. I looked back on it today and it summed up my feelings. So, it's worthwhile deleting it, there are some nice people here but nonetheless.

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[/COLOR] Sometimes when you are very low in your self you can help any one else. You say you have enough to deal with at the moment perhaps if you share those things with us we could help/advise. Do you still work? Cheers

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I've tried that, I got indifferent responses. It's not really worth the added stress.[/QUOTE] Can you post a link or the title of the thread? I may have even replied to it Nah don't thin a mod will lay in to you it's there job to correct things etc and some members well it's forum life at one time I would have been hurt of certain things, but now doesn't bother me unless it's some one being really rude then I will deal with it. I can see you are in a bad way at the moment mate just try and rise above it not easy I know, but it can be done and when you have done it your confidence will grow. Take baby steps and a day at a time! I will add mate I was in bad way 7 months ago had shit life had some bad people in my life but hung on to them any way long story short I have closed the doors now on that part of my life felt really low after wards but began to make changes it wasn't easy but my life has nice people in it now it's took time and is miles better so one door closes in your life another one or two will open but you have to find the keys first ok Cheers

[mrjonesmcr]

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I've tried that, I got indifferent responses. It's not really worth the added stress.

Can you post a link or the title of the thread? I may have even replied to it Nah don't thin a mod will lay in to you it's there job to correct things etc and some members well it's forum life at one time I would have been hurt of certain things, but now doesn't bother me unless it's some one being really rude then I will deal with it. I can see you are in a bad way at the moment mate just try and rise above it not easy I know, but it can be done and when you have done it your confidence will grow. Take baby steps and a day at a time Cheers[/QUOTE]

Except that wasn't the case, I posted something, one member disagreed and I was ganged up on, even though what I said wasn't offensive or divisive, I accept it wasn't phrased in the best manner, however it wasn't posted from a place of hate, more frustration, yet I was put on the defensive immediately. Maybe that's one rouge mod rather than them all. But nonetheless. This was the thread: http://www.nomorepanic.co.uk/showthread.php?t=190881[COLOR="blue"]

I'm not claiming it was my finest moment, but the reaction at the beginning hurt me greatly and made me withdraw further.

[nomorepanic]

Hi

There are no admin posts on that thread to you so I am confused.

Elen (admin) replied to a post another member did but that is all I can see.

[Bigboyuk]

Can you post a link or the title of the thread? I may have even replied to it Nah don't thin a mod will lay in to you it's there job to correct things etc and some members well it's forum life at one time I would have been hurt of certain things, but now doesn't bother me unless it's some one being really rude then I will deal with it. I can see you are in a bad way at the moment mate just try and rise above it not easy I know, but it can be done and when you have done it your confidence will grow. Take baby steps and a day at a time Cheers

Except that wasn't the case, I posted something, one member disagreed and I was ganged up on, even though what I said wasn't offensive or divisive, I accept it wasn't phrased in the best manner, however it wasn't posted from a place of hate, more frustration, yet I was put on the defensive immediately. Maybe that's one rouge mod rather than them all. But nonetheless. This was the thread: http://www.nomorepanic.co.uk/showthread.php?t=190881[COLOR="blue"]

I'm not claiming it was my finest moment, but the reaction at the beginning hurt me greatly and made me withdraw further.[/QUOTE]Thanks for the link and I did post replies on it a few times. Mate think you are over reacting to one members response which actually wasn't nasty in relation to your age alll that was said you are talking rubbish think(you are still young) it was more of a friendly dig and the mods reply well nothing to worry about. your age you only 27 wish I was that age again and you feel you have lost a section of your life that you cant get back, I have had over 30 years of my that I wanted to enjoy but didn't you cant get it back so you have to move on if you don't you will be stuck in a rut. This not a dig but good advice I will email you later Cheers

[mrjonesmcr]

Hi

There are no admin posts on that thread to you so I am confused.

Elen (admin) replied to a post another member did but that is all I can see.

Well, maybe I'm hypersensitive, but that's an impression I got. She responded to a post that another member, that is correct, but the phrase 'pmsl' was used after criticism towards me, that's not very nice is it? That's how I perceived it rightly or wrongly. A member doing it is one thing, but a mod? seems wrong to me.

Anyway, I no longer want to be part of the site, so whatever. I don't want to cause arguments, I simply wanted to be honest about my feelings, no matter how silly they might seem, or how wrong they might be!

Best wishes.

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Except that wasn't the case, I posted something, one member disagreed and I was ganged up on, even though what I said wasn't offensive or divisive, I accept it wasn't phrased in the best manner, however it wasn't posted from a place of hate, more frustration, yet I was put on the defensive immediately. Maybe that's one rouge mod rather than them all. But nonetheless. This was the thread: http://www.nomorepanic.co.uk/showthread.php?t=190881[COLOR="blue"]

I'm not claiming it was my finest moment, but the reaction at the beginning hurt me greatly and made me withdraw further.

Thanks for the link and I did post replies on it a few times. Mate think you are over reacting to one members response which actually wasn't nasty in relation all that was said you are talking rubbish think it was more of a friendly dig and the mods reply well nothing to worry about. your age you only 27 wish I was that age again and you feel you have lost a section of your life that you cant get back, you cant get it back so you move on if you don't you will be stuck in a rut. This not a dig but good advice I will email you later Cheers[/QUOTE]

It wasn't a friendly dig, it was criticism in a not so friendly manner. Perhaps it's not as rude as I'm perceiving it, but nonetheless I'm not laughing at it.

I'm capable of a joke and taking one in the right spirit, I didn't find that funny as I was really upset at the time. But agree to disagree I guess. Maybe I was talking rubbish but I was being honest, obviously I'm not as perfect as others.

[Bigboyuk]

Hi

There are no admin posts on that thread to you so I am confused.

Elen (admin) replied to a post another member did but that is all I can see.

Exactly and it certainly wasn't nasty either just joking around with another member lol

[mrjonesmcr]

Exactly and it certainly wasn't nasty either just joking around with another member lol

At my expense during a hard time...

[Bigboyuk]

Well, maybe I'm hypersensitive, but that's an impression I got. She responded to a post that another member, that is correct, but the phrase 'pmsl' was used after criticism towards me, that's not very nice is it? That's how I perceived it rightly or wrongly. A member doing it is one thing, but a mod? seems wrong to me.

Anyway, I no longer want to be part of the site, so whatever. I don't want to cause arguments, I simply wanted to be honest about my feelings, no matter how silly they might seem, or how wrong they might be!

Best wishes.

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Thanks for the link and I did post replies on it a few times. Mate think you are over reacting to one members response which actually wasn't nasty in relation all that was said you are talking rubbish think it was more of a friendly dig and the mods reply well nothing to worry about. your age you only 27 wish I was that age again and you feel you have lost a section of your life that you cant get back, you cant get it back so you move on if you don't you will be stuck in a rut. This not a dig but good advice I will email you later Cheers

It wasn't a friendly dig, it was criticism in a not so friendly manner. I'm capable of a joke, I didn't find it funny as I was really upset at the time. But agree to disagree I guess. Maybe I was talking rubbish but I was being honest, obviously I'm not as perfect as others. [/QUOTE]
Well fair enough but I have seen many more threads where it can really nasty! Think you are very sensitive person that is easily hurt? Hey none of us perfect lol maybe rubbish is the wrong word some one else could have said you are talking clap trap or it's bull shit that one I wouldn't particulary like either, think you need to be a bit less sensitive mate I think you are a accepted member on here well I think so All I am doing is trying to put it in prespective I have lost out on a lot of my life so Iam aiming for better now you can too as it's not too late by a long score

[mrjonesmcr]

It wasn't a friendly dig, it was criticism in a not so friendly manner. I'm capable of a joke, I didn't find it funny as I was really upset at the time. But agree to disagree I guess. Maybe I was talking rubbish but I was being honest, obviously I'm not as perfect as others.

Well fair enough but I have seen many more threads where it can really nasty! Think you are very sensitive person that is easily hurt? Hey none of us perfect lol maybe rubbish is the wrong word some one else could have said you are talking clap trap or it's bull shit that one I wouldn't particulary like either, think you need to be a bit less sensitive mate I think you are a accepted member on here well I think so All I am doing is trying to put it in prespective I have lost out on a lot of my life so Iam aiming for better now you can too as it's not too late by a long score [/QUOTE]

Yes, I am sensitive, when you've been bullied, mocked, used and dismissed your whole life, it does happen, it has left me very anxious, extremely hypersensitive and ultra guarded. Even slight criticisms upset me, it's always been the case. I'm not a perfect person, but I'm someone with good intentions and no desire to hurt people, yet I say one slight thing wrong and the floodgates open! It's not healthy I know, but that's how it is.

I'm clearly not right for a forum, that's life I guess. Like I said before, I'm not the greatest speaker or poster. My strengths probably lie elsewhere.

[Bigboyuk]

At my expense during a hard time...

Well again that your thinking and would say you are over reacting to a few words there is a difference you know perhaps you can't see it right now.

ok this is only a eg what I am going to type and is not a dig at you: Ok mate I think you are a loser and you are going to have no happiness in your life and you are stupid to think you way you do think. unless you try and change your life. so a lot of the post was harmful and very nasty in my book other bits are saying try and make changes. Now that sort of reply would be reported straight to admin/mods to deal with and it would hurt me for sure but looking at the thread there is nothing bad.nasty, putting you down nothing atall in it well that my view and probably others will agree ?) You could have a lot going for you mate and again it's not too late, it's never to late Cheers

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Well fair enough but I have seen many more threads where it can get really nasty! Think you are very sensitive person that is easily hurt? Hey none of us perfect lol maybe rubbish is the wrong word some one else could have said you are talking clap trap or it's bull shit that one word I wouldn't particulary like either, think you need to be a bit less sensitive mate I think you are a accepted member on here well I think so All I am doing is trying to put it in prespective I have lost out on a lot of my life so Iam aiming for better now you can too as it's not too late by a long score

Yes, I am sensitive, when you've been bullied, mocked, used and dismissed your whole life, it does happen, it has left me very anxious, extremely hypersensitive and ultra guarded. Even slight criticisms upset me, it's always been the case. I'm not a perfect person, but I'm someone with good intentions and no desire to hurt people, yet I say one slight thing wrong and the floodgates open! It's not healthy I know, but that's how it is.

I'm clearly not right for a forum, that's life I guess. Like I said before, I'm not the greatest speaker or poster. My strengths probably lie elsewhere.[/QUOTE] I can totally relate 100% in what you saying I was extremely sensitive for years and years and used WTF (not swearing at you mate) that became the norm for me even in the past I felt I couldn't express my self my views were always dismissed I was called stupid many many times in the past and the worst was I was told I know nothing hurt full or what you bet mate no one is perfect fact Yeah iam too good intentions and no desire to hurt any one but if any one has go at me now I will stand my corner but never hit any one not my style so I feel liberated now and my mind set is in a better place so for years I would have hid away in stead of tackling things and it's much easier now than it has been for years as for you posts there is nothing wrong with them give your self some kindness you deserve it Cheers