moving from mole to mole

[bexy84]

i just cant shake this anxiety over skin cancer....i have had ALL my moles checked and they say they are all fine but i have one on my ear that is brown/tan color round and raised, it has been there for about 6 yrs or so..i am worried that it is a nodular melenoma even though my dr said it is fine and he is a skin specialist..i have googled it and it said sometimes melenomas can be mis diagnosed as normal moles . i just keep thnking i have had it there for so long if it was anything i would have had a sign of bleeding or something by now . i just am going insane...i have even looked into paying up to 300 pounds to get it removed privatly ..any advice please

[bexy84]

Anybody xx

[ladybird64]

bexy I did reply to a previous thread of yours with no response but I'm going to say the same thing hun.

Your moles have been checked over and over by your doc who is an expert in these matters and he has said you are fine, unfortunately this doesn't seem to be putting your mind at rest at all.

I'm not sure if you have even addressed the possibility that all these fears are down to Health Anxiety but maybe it's time to do so?

You have mentioned that you are willing to pay a lot of money for the removal of moles that a specialist has told you are non-cancerous, that isn't a rational action hun but one that is driven by your HA.

Please think about the possibility of getting some help for yourself because this constant checking and asking for reassurance here must be exhausting.

Take care

[westofengland]

Hi, I've been there - moles don't worry me now, now it's something else ha ha ha

Anyway, melanoma is actually quite rare. Rather than blowing three hundred quid on mole removal, why not spend it on a holiday or something or maybe more counselling?

If it's any consolation I was convinced I had skin cancer and used to dream about it. Now I never think about, but sadly, I still suffer from anxiety about my health, it's just moved on

[nomorepanic]

I agree with Ladybird - good post.

[chris_1982]

If you had a nodular melenoma for 6 years you would be dead by now. Its very aggressive type. nodular melanoma happens in less than 10% of melanoma cases and as someone has already said melanoma isn't that common in the first place so to get a rare sub type is even rarer. You have been checked by an expert so take confidence from that and know your moles are perfectly fine.

Have you taken pictures of your moles? this is what helped me. You can then compare them to your moles each month and look for change which is whats important when detecting these things. Its also a lot cheaper and better for you than biopsing beign moles.

[bexy84]

Ok so I have been to my doctor again!! He checked the mole on my ear and said it is nice and squidy were as the type of cancer I was worried about presents as a firm bump not a squashy one, also said I wud be dead by now if I had a nodular melenoma that was sat on my ear for a few years!!! I feel ok but thos is where the ocd kicks in and I keep checking my mole is still squashy!! Hence it is sore now!! How do I break this obsession and enjoy my life with my young family

[nomorepanic]

Stop constantly checking and poking and prodding.

You would also benefit from CBT therapy I think

[bexy84]

thankyou for your replys ......... i dont no if anyone can relate but the more i check my skin the more i seem to see new marks, moles, freckles ect..then my mind plays tricks and i convince myself that they werent there before and so on and so on.............is this my mind??? surly they cant develop before my eyes???? has anyone had the mole , skin cancer fear before??

[nomorepanic]

We do develop new moles, blemishes etc all the time - that is perfectly normal.

Why not take some photos of them all so you can compare them next time you are worried