Re: Have let everyone down- Anxiety is ruining my life
Hi Hollie, firstly well done for setting up that work experience and going despite your anxiety, that's very brave and your family should really be pleased that you even made it in the first place. Do they know how bad your anxiety/thoughts have gotten? Your story really reminds me of myself, I started with anxiety when I was about 13 and it gradually got worse to the point I lost all my friends and stopped going to school in my final years so taught myself my GCSE's and just went to school to sit each exam. I lost my friends because I became so shy and withdrawn, nobody knew what was happening, what was wrong, I didn't even know. All I knew is I was so anxious all the time and hated school. So that lead to people thinking I was being bullied, which only made me feel worse and more isolated. I thought things would get better when I went to sixth form, make friends, etc, but like you I didn't last long there, I dropped out after the first term after having lots of absences. I just couldn't cope. During all this I did have therapy and went to a group therapy sort of day centre. I also developed health anxiety and had CBT like you. It helped my health anxiety but my social anxiety was never adressed. To this day infact it's been acknowledged but never treated successfully. I too left the old CBT as I turned 18 and had a period of about 2 years before this year when I started CBT again (after waiting 8 months!!). I'm now 20. Again though I'm being treated for another phobia that's stemmed from my social anxiety and not actually the social anxiety! I'm no better to this day then I was before, infact I'm worse. I haven't had a job, I missed out on all those things like proms, going to uni etc. It's really hard, you just don't know what to do, how to get your life back. The difference with me is that my mum has been very understanding and helpful as she also suffered anxiety when she was younger. But in the early days I remember many arguments and frustration because I wouldn't go to school/college. That was because people didn't really know what was going on at first. I remember once my mum literally dragged me out of bed and down the stairs to school, it was horrible but I know she/family were only concerned. Of course nothing helped, it's not something that can easily be fixed sadly. Your family really need to know how bad things are for you, some people think it's just 'teenage years' but don't realise the severity sometimes. Can you maybe show your mum your post? It's stometimes easier than speaking to each other. I'm suprised that your doctor won't refer you back to CBT, clearly they must think your 'bad enough' if they sent you for CBT in the first place? I can't believe sometimes the failings in mental health, it's so frustrating! Are you able to see another doctor? I haven't ever taken medication but this is probably my next step. As I don't have any experience with meds I can't really give any advice other than that you should talk to your doctor about the possibility of changing. Each drug works differently for everyone so maybe the one your on now isn't helping but another one hopefully would. It's trial and error really from what I've heard. Anyway, I'm sorry for the long winded post, I just really wanted to message you to let you know your not alone in this! Please PM me if you want to chat x
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