Many people PM & email me for personal advice, So I have got to the point of writing this.
Listen, if theres a part of you thats not ready to release some fear, and there's a part of you that wants to keep your fear for maybe 2 minutes, 2 weeks, 2 months, 2 years or the rest of your life. Then I suggest you don't give the effort to read this. I'm only interested in those that has a part that whats to unlearn their fear.
Fear is a basic emotion that has evolved to protect us, some of us are better than others at it.
Fear is not a pleasant emotion. It can range from mild apprehension to heart pumping fear in the pit of your stomach. It appears immediately when we hear, see or feel something. Fear can also sneak up slowly. for example the visit due to the dentist, bet many of you have that one
THE TWO ELEMENTS OF FEAR.
Feeling of fear is a reaction to the mixture of
(1) A real outside event that acts as a anchor.
(2) The meaning we make in our imagination.
THE NLP APPROACH TO FEAR.
NLP is about how we create our experiences and how we represent them in our minds, in our bodies and our words.
The NEURO Of Neuro Linguistice Programming is about the mind, how we think. We use our senses to experience the external world and then we use or senses on the inside ti think about it. In these terms, thinking is usinf five senses internally. We see pictures, hear sounds and voices in our minds, create feelings and imagine smells and tastes. These may be remembered or imagined.
NLP explores the meaning we make of the fear to cause stimulus. It is not what we think, but how we think it that creates the fear. How else can we explain why some people are afraid to go out, scared of dogs and other people are not?
The LINGUISTIC part of NLP deals with language. How we talk to ourselfs. Changing the language you use will change how you feel, especially as you can all self-talk your self into feeling fear, RIGHT!
The PROGRAMMING part of NLP is about physiology. You are all aware of the physical feeling of fear. The tightness in your chest, sinking feeling, shaking the list is endless.
HOW DO YOU KNOW YOU ARE AFRAID.
Think of a situation in the past when you were afraid.
Whereabouts in your body are the sensations?
How hot or cold are the feelings?
How much space do they take?
What shape do they seem to be?
PAY ATTENTION TO ALL FEELINGS.
THERE ARE TWO TYPES OF FEAR.
Authentic fear and real fear. Authentic fear is stimulated in the present moment by danger. It makes us avoid danger. Authentic fear is useful.
Unreal fear is stimulated by our imagining of what might happen. It is usually something we do not want to happen in the future.
Unreal fear is a problem. It can stop us in our tracks. Becasue it is based on imagination not reason. Unreal fear is not about what has happened (past) or is happening (present), it is about what could happen (future) but as not. Uncertainty is disturbing. Without information, we fill the void with imaginings, and those are what frightens us.
There are different types of unreal fear. They range from the very intense feeling of a phobia or panic attack, through to worry.
PHOBIAS
What is a phobia? It is a sudden, irrational fear about a situation, animal or thing that is not immediately threatening. Common phobias are heights, spiders enclosed spaces. Someone with a phobia cannot argue themselves out of it. They feel compelled to avoid the source of the phobia.
THE KEY POINTS ABOUT PHOBIAS.
A phobia is an intense unreasoning fear.
It is possible to be phobic about almost anything.
The object of the phobia poses no real threat or danger.
No one learns from their phobia, they have the same response every time.
A phobia is specific. The suffer is aware of what causes the phobia.
UNLEARNING FEAR
Freedom comes from unlearning unreal fear. We know we learn fear from information repetition, trauma. Nobody forgets to be afraid. How do you remember these lesson of fear. How do they stay
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