littlemissshy
25-08-11, 11:28
I have always had difficulty saying no mostly because of the reaction of the person asking, I hate conflict and also I don't want to appear rude. Basically I'm anxious about what people will think.
So a colleague at work, (where I work part-time) told me he was looking for a cleaner for his eldery relative's home. He knows I have spare time and I have a one day cleaning job for extra money elsewhere. I said yes straight away without thinking, but after I got home I realised I'd made a mistake. The main reason being is I will be alone with his relative who is nearly 90, I'm not a carer and I have no experience and that's not what I'm looking for and I really wouldn't want that responsibility. Also because we work together I don't want it be uncomfortable if he takes it the wrong way when I say no.
So my point is how do I say no in a clear,polite but firm way? I know that he'll want to know why and then try to persuade me. But how do I stay firm and not waver?
So a colleague at work, (where I work part-time) told me he was looking for a cleaner for his eldery relative's home. He knows I have spare time and I have a one day cleaning job for extra money elsewhere. I said yes straight away without thinking, but after I got home I realised I'd made a mistake. The main reason being is I will be alone with his relative who is nearly 90, I'm not a carer and I have no experience and that's not what I'm looking for and I really wouldn't want that responsibility. Also because we work together I don't want it be uncomfortable if he takes it the wrong way when I say no.
So my point is how do I say no in a clear,polite but firm way? I know that he'll want to know why and then try to persuade me. But how do I stay firm and not waver?