blue_bird
28-08-11, 10:49
Sorry everyone but I just need to get some things out of my system. I suffer from anxiety and although I don't show any outward signs, inwards it eats away at me.
I have tried talking to people around me but no really understands. I feel like I have to keep it together all the time because thats what everyone expects of me. There is one person in my husbands family who manages to make me feel really bad about myself. She would have everyone believe we are the best of friends but deep down she never misses an opportunity to have a go at me. It's not obvious to other people, so maybe I am being paranoid.
If I dont feel well or I'm having a bad day, she will says things like 'pull yourself together and stop getting on like that'. When I try and explain she talks over the top of me and tells me to stop making a fuss. She undermines me and makes me feel as if she is always judging me.
I have hinted to my hubby but he doesn't really understand. He thinks I am confident and outgoing, and I can be. Put when someone puts me down it destroys my self confidence. I feel like this woman is bullying me and I let it happen. I have tried to stand up to her but it only made her worse and she tried to shout me down. I am not an agressive person and I remained polite will trying to stand my ground.
I don't want a confrontation because I know she wouldn't change but I would like to be able to ignore and deal with the situation better. I have talked to a friend about it and she thinks maybe she is jealous, and thats why she says things like 'you look terrible since you lost weight' or 'who did your hair, it's a mess'.
Any ideas please ?
I have tried talking to people around me but no really understands. I feel like I have to keep it together all the time because thats what everyone expects of me. There is one person in my husbands family who manages to make me feel really bad about myself. She would have everyone believe we are the best of friends but deep down she never misses an opportunity to have a go at me. It's not obvious to other people, so maybe I am being paranoid.
If I dont feel well or I'm having a bad day, she will says things like 'pull yourself together and stop getting on like that'. When I try and explain she talks over the top of me and tells me to stop making a fuss. She undermines me and makes me feel as if she is always judging me.
I have hinted to my hubby but he doesn't really understand. He thinks I am confident and outgoing, and I can be. Put when someone puts me down it destroys my self confidence. I feel like this woman is bullying me and I let it happen. I have tried to stand up to her but it only made her worse and she tried to shout me down. I am not an agressive person and I remained polite will trying to stand my ground.
I don't want a confrontation because I know she wouldn't change but I would like to be able to ignore and deal with the situation better. I have talked to a friend about it and she thinks maybe she is jealous, and thats why she says things like 'you look terrible since you lost weight' or 'who did your hair, it's a mess'.
Any ideas please ?