Do i need councilling from cruse?

[anx mum]

Many of u know the last few months have been awful for me with anxiety and depression i am finally getting myself better although still on alot of meds. As some of u know lost my mum (bestfriend) suddendly in 2005 its still really raw to me dont think il ever get over it. My fear is talking about my mum will i open up a can of worms or can i sort of try and come to terms with it?

[countrygirl]

I think you have to weigh up how bad you are now, can you get worse or do you think that the only way is up from where you are now??

Often with counselling of any kind or cbt they do make you worse before they make you better but as long as you are expecting this its not such a shock.

You are blessed to have had a mum as your best friend and its hard to lose your best friend mum or not.

Personally if you haven't tried any counselling then I would think you have nothing to lose, have you asked your GP about it at all- you may need more specialist counselling than the normal 6week slot with a standard counsellor that is what you usually get on nhs so worth discussing with Dr.

[Traceypo]

My CBT lasted as long as it needed to, it lasted 16 sessions, but could have went much longer.

You may need more specialist counselling though, as opposed to CBT, as you have suffered a bereavement of someone who was most significant in your life.

I would seek counselling specifically for bereavement and learn to live with your loss and then seek further help once you feel more at ease.

You are lucky to have a mother who was your best friend (mine in mine), but a best friend and a mother would want you to move on with your life and would never want you to suffer, so please seek help with this bereavement and become stronger to overcome the anxiety.

Wishing you all the best, good luck

Tracey xxx

[xfilme]

my bereavement problems were sorted with just one session of learning how to apply Cognitive Behavioural Therapy to my life. Maybe try that form of counselling? as it helps you develop long term coping mechanisms for difficult thoughts x

[Chem]

CRUSE can help you through the bereavement process if you feel that you have not grieved for your mother. It sounds like you need a counsellor to help you with past issues, not just her loss. Ask your doctor for a referral.