tommy84
29-09-11, 20:08
Hello,
I haven't been here for a few years but think i am started to regress back into my old ways. I used to suffer with a variety of anxiety complaints (GAD/ health, harm, agorophobia) since i was 19 (almost 27 now!). 2 years ago i went through a difficualt breakup and has taken 2 years to sell my house (ex being difficualt, had to take her to court and now suing her...thats another story!).
Over the last 18 months i have had my fair share of female aquaintances, but a month ago a met up with a girl from work who i thought would just be a fling, but have fallen head over heels in love with her. I love every moment together and really beleive she is my perfect woman. We went to brighton last weekend and on sunday went up to beachy head and lay in the sun, it was the most perfect moment of my life. Went out last night and everything was perfect, until this morning.....
I picked her up on the way to work, got to the office, just as we got out of the lift she read a text message from her friend asking her if she wanted to go to thailand with her for 3 weeks at christmant, unfortutley she hasnt got enough holiday remaining and was very disappointed. Later today she emailed me asking if i would go with her, without thinking i said yes, she has got carried away and started looking at flights for april, booking time off work. And now i am panicking, i uses to be agorophobic, i wnet 6 months without leaving the house, i managed a holiday to crete with an ex and 2 skiing holidays (the second was an enourmous struggle before but fine when i was there). I went to belgium on my own in may and was fine with this, but 3 weeks in thailand seems so daunting, the ski holidays were not that bad as they were only in france and could be home in 2 hours, but 3 weeks in a exotic country is scaring the s*** out of me.
I know people are going to tell me to be hones twith her, but we are 1 month into a new relationship, this girl is beautiful, funny, intelligent and loves to go on holiday to exotic places. But i dont want to regress back into a state of permanent anxiety that i was in before, as in the last 18 months i have achieved so much (managed to go for weekends away, managed to drink alcohol without panicing, go to clubs/bars/ restaurants without looking for the door) and am worried this may send me back.
Does anyone have any advice ?
T
I haven't been here for a few years but think i am started to regress back into my old ways. I used to suffer with a variety of anxiety complaints (GAD/ health, harm, agorophobia) since i was 19 (almost 27 now!). 2 years ago i went through a difficualt breakup and has taken 2 years to sell my house (ex being difficualt, had to take her to court and now suing her...thats another story!).
Over the last 18 months i have had my fair share of female aquaintances, but a month ago a met up with a girl from work who i thought would just be a fling, but have fallen head over heels in love with her. I love every moment together and really beleive she is my perfect woman. We went to brighton last weekend and on sunday went up to beachy head and lay in the sun, it was the most perfect moment of my life. Went out last night and everything was perfect, until this morning.....
I picked her up on the way to work, got to the office, just as we got out of the lift she read a text message from her friend asking her if she wanted to go to thailand with her for 3 weeks at christmant, unfortutley she hasnt got enough holiday remaining and was very disappointed. Later today she emailed me asking if i would go with her, without thinking i said yes, she has got carried away and started looking at flights for april, booking time off work. And now i am panicking, i uses to be agorophobic, i wnet 6 months without leaving the house, i managed a holiday to crete with an ex and 2 skiing holidays (the second was an enourmous struggle before but fine when i was there). I went to belgium on my own in may and was fine with this, but 3 weeks in thailand seems so daunting, the ski holidays were not that bad as they were only in france and could be home in 2 hours, but 3 weeks in a exotic country is scaring the s*** out of me.
I know people are going to tell me to be hones twith her, but we are 1 month into a new relationship, this girl is beautiful, funny, intelligent and loves to go on holiday to exotic places. But i dont want to regress back into a state of permanent anxiety that i was in before, as in the last 18 months i have achieved so much (managed to go for weekends away, managed to drink alcohol without panicing, go to clubs/bars/ restaurants without looking for the door) and am worried this may send me back.
Does anyone have any advice ?
T