MarcusD
30-09-11, 00:59
Hi guys hope your all well. Sorry if this is a bit long and winded!
I have been a member here for a longtime but not been around for awhile. When i first got ill i came to this website and got some amazing advice which set me on my way to getting better.
I had/have agoraphobia/social phobia/depression/severe anxiety and Panic attacks. Back then it was pretty bad.
After getting advice from you great people i saw a doc, took meds and did cbt. After a long hard road i actually made a pretty decent recovery. Not a full one as i still had the anxiety and was still a bit weary of people etc but was at a good place again. I could go out again, could do things i only dreamed of doing again when i got ill.
This period lasted about 3 years or so.
Then this monday just gone i had for the first time in around 3-4 years a proper panic attack! I was trying to get to sleep then just started to feel strange. I had a seriously bad headache, started to be sick and had the feeling of stomach acid in my throat. Had pain in my chest like heartburn. My eyes started to go blurry, began to sweat, couldn't stand up without feeling uncomfortable and kept needing to go to pee. I started to worry and that set me on my way......Was up all night freaking out, having bad thoughts that i was going to die and was going right back to the start and so on.
So the next day after having no sleep and still feeling the same i asked to see if a doc could come see me. Through my illness i have never been the type to run to the doctor every 5 minutes, never rang for an ambulance or anything like that. I was asked if i could come to the doctors surgery and see someone as the home visits one was fully booked. So i said yes.
I set off to see the doc which is literally a 5min walk from my house. I was feeling as bad as bad can be, felt like i was going to pass out. Arrived and sat in the waiting area. Sweat pouring off my head.
Finally got in to see the doctor and she took my blood pressure and heartbeat then said "your fine it is just your anxiety....."
I asked her if she was sure and she said yes. It is probably a mixture of things that have set it off. Are you under severe stress?
I explain that i have a ESA medical on friday and that on thursday my sister is in court for a custody case for my 5 year old nephew.
She says it is most probably those 2 things that have set it off.
So i go home, feel a tiny bit better. Then at night time and i start to feel anxious again. Same thing happens as night before.
Then today i wake up after about 5hrs sleep and just feel so exhausted. After lying there for about 2 hours my head starts to clear and i feel a bit more normal. Sort of get a bit of confidence to go to the shop as need a few things.
When at the shop the dreaded avoid feelings come back and try and make me flee. But i know from cbt that the best thing to do is not run away. If i do that i know i will beat myself up about it. So even in severe dis-comfort i continue to get the things i need. The shop was busy so i sort of kept walking around until a check out was free. When i went to pay my hand started to tremble and the check out girl asked if i was ok. I said "yeah". Went to put my card in the card slot and it took me awhile for my hand to do it as was all over the place! Finally paid for the stuff and left. Was sweating all over the place! On the way home just felt so rough.
So this evening i have been trying hard to escape from the negative thoughts as i know that is the problem. But i just can't.
I tried to ask the ESA people if they could postpone the visit as i am a total wreck right now and they said they couldn't do it. They said that the doctor coming out would be able to take a look at you and help you while doing the medical. So i agreed. Even in the current state i think maybe it is best to get it over with. If i postpone it i will just worry about it until it is over.
So i try to go for a walk and hope it clears my head but it hasn't. I still have the constant headache/blurry vision and light headed feeling.
Has anyone else ever been in a situation like this before and if so does it mean i am going right back to the start?
Reason i ask is because things are so different now to when i first got ill. Back then i lived with my parents. But now i live alone. I really enjoy my independence. I have a gf who lives in Basingstoke but sadly today she has to go to Singapore on business for a week. My two parents also recently split up and my mum moved away from the area. So going home is not an option really. I don't really have anyone who can come check on me or get things from the shop for me where as before i did. So that is a huge worry for me and sadly is the thought that i can't escape. If i go back to the start i would be doing it alone. My gf is so busy we can only really see each other twice a week. I worry that she might cut her losses and bail if she thinks i have to go another 3 years just to get back to where i was last week.....
I know i shouldn't worry as that is the main problem. For so long i had it under-control and had a decent life compared to what i had been through before. I just can't believe that this time last week i was fine, went for a meal with my partner. Now i am a nervous wreck again!
Any help/advice would be really appreciated. And sorry it is a long message to read!
Marcus
I have been a member here for a longtime but not been around for awhile. When i first got ill i came to this website and got some amazing advice which set me on my way to getting better.
I had/have agoraphobia/social phobia/depression/severe anxiety and Panic attacks. Back then it was pretty bad.
After getting advice from you great people i saw a doc, took meds and did cbt. After a long hard road i actually made a pretty decent recovery. Not a full one as i still had the anxiety and was still a bit weary of people etc but was at a good place again. I could go out again, could do things i only dreamed of doing again when i got ill.
This period lasted about 3 years or so.
Then this monday just gone i had for the first time in around 3-4 years a proper panic attack! I was trying to get to sleep then just started to feel strange. I had a seriously bad headache, started to be sick and had the feeling of stomach acid in my throat. Had pain in my chest like heartburn. My eyes started to go blurry, began to sweat, couldn't stand up without feeling uncomfortable and kept needing to go to pee. I started to worry and that set me on my way......Was up all night freaking out, having bad thoughts that i was going to die and was going right back to the start and so on.
So the next day after having no sleep and still feeling the same i asked to see if a doc could come see me. Through my illness i have never been the type to run to the doctor every 5 minutes, never rang for an ambulance or anything like that. I was asked if i could come to the doctors surgery and see someone as the home visits one was fully booked. So i said yes.
I set off to see the doc which is literally a 5min walk from my house. I was feeling as bad as bad can be, felt like i was going to pass out. Arrived and sat in the waiting area. Sweat pouring off my head.
Finally got in to see the doctor and she took my blood pressure and heartbeat then said "your fine it is just your anxiety....."
I asked her if she was sure and she said yes. It is probably a mixture of things that have set it off. Are you under severe stress?
I explain that i have a ESA medical on friday and that on thursday my sister is in court for a custody case for my 5 year old nephew.
She says it is most probably those 2 things that have set it off.
So i go home, feel a tiny bit better. Then at night time and i start to feel anxious again. Same thing happens as night before.
Then today i wake up after about 5hrs sleep and just feel so exhausted. After lying there for about 2 hours my head starts to clear and i feel a bit more normal. Sort of get a bit of confidence to go to the shop as need a few things.
When at the shop the dreaded avoid feelings come back and try and make me flee. But i know from cbt that the best thing to do is not run away. If i do that i know i will beat myself up about it. So even in severe dis-comfort i continue to get the things i need. The shop was busy so i sort of kept walking around until a check out was free. When i went to pay my hand started to tremble and the check out girl asked if i was ok. I said "yeah". Went to put my card in the card slot and it took me awhile for my hand to do it as was all over the place! Finally paid for the stuff and left. Was sweating all over the place! On the way home just felt so rough.
So this evening i have been trying hard to escape from the negative thoughts as i know that is the problem. But i just can't.
I tried to ask the ESA people if they could postpone the visit as i am a total wreck right now and they said they couldn't do it. They said that the doctor coming out would be able to take a look at you and help you while doing the medical. So i agreed. Even in the current state i think maybe it is best to get it over with. If i postpone it i will just worry about it until it is over.
So i try to go for a walk and hope it clears my head but it hasn't. I still have the constant headache/blurry vision and light headed feeling.
Has anyone else ever been in a situation like this before and if so does it mean i am going right back to the start?
Reason i ask is because things are so different now to when i first got ill. Back then i lived with my parents. But now i live alone. I really enjoy my independence. I have a gf who lives in Basingstoke but sadly today she has to go to Singapore on business for a week. My two parents also recently split up and my mum moved away from the area. So going home is not an option really. I don't really have anyone who can come check on me or get things from the shop for me where as before i did. So that is a huge worry for me and sadly is the thought that i can't escape. If i go back to the start i would be doing it alone. My gf is so busy we can only really see each other twice a week. I worry that she might cut her losses and bail if she thinks i have to go another 3 years just to get back to where i was last week.....
I know i shouldn't worry as that is the main problem. For so long i had it under-control and had a decent life compared to what i had been through before. I just can't believe that this time last week i was fine, went for a meal with my partner. Now i am a nervous wreck again!
Any help/advice would be really appreciated. And sorry it is a long message to read!
Marcus