inlove123
23-11-11, 20:43
Im 16 and have had OCD for around 7 months now. It started off confessing everything to my then boyfriend, every past sexual act, everything i'd ever said or done, stuff that caused me shame too. i felt if i didn't tell him it would only stay in my mind forever and ruin the relationship.
I think this is where my guilt OCD started. I would ruminate and feel guilty all the time. As you can tell it only caused more problems. I used to be a terrible, basically a compulsive liar. He was my first boyfriend and I realised that I was such an immoral person and telling the truth and being overly honest was my way of trying to become a better person.
So last month we split up. It has affected me and I am going through stages where I feel I will never meet anyone else, I'm really depressed etc.
My OCD and ruminating caused me to remember some really disgusting, immoral, weird sexual fantasies that I had had up until earlier this year. They had gone on for around 1 or 2 years. I had thought nothing of them and always considered myself a pretty sane person. But after remembering this I realised that it was sick, immoral and I felt so guilty and ashamed. I told my boyfriend because I couldn't stand the feeling inside me anymore. He didn't take it too well... he though I must be some sort of psycho.
Basically everytime we would argue he would call me a creep or a psycho. We ended our relationship because he became distant and told me I had "pushed him away." I still love him so much but he kept saying he was going to go around and tell everyone about me because of how much i'd hurt him. i then lied to him about it and now i feel even worse.
I don't know if he has told everyone, he has insinuated that he has a few times and i am so paranoid now. I lied to him and now I don't think I could ever get back with him because I lied and it would always be on my mind and I'm so angry at myself for it because I cannot supress my guilt. I broke his heart with all this stuff, and now he is angry and hates me. He won't talk to me so I have decided to leave it.
Now I am on my own, I feel down all the time. I go out, socialise, all that but its times like this when I'm alone I just feel so guilty about everythig and feel like I'm going to have to tell my next boyfriend about my perverted fantasies because I cannot keep it to myself. I keep thinking I must be some sort of monster. It isn't a normal fantasy but I know there are people who have done it and this has made me feel slightly better, however I look at people and think "I bet you haven't done this" and I look at them and think how lucky they are they werent stupid/sick enough to masturbate to this and they dont have to put up with these feelings. I know teenagers have so many raging hormones, ive not had a great teenage life either (something happened when i was 12) but I feel like an absolute sicko.
I don't want to reveal what it is but i told my ex that it was intrusive thoughts, that I hadn't wanted to think about it and I hadn't masturbated to it. But that isn't true: When I told him i was basically trying to convey that I had WILLINGLY thought of these things and had masturbated to it and how ashamed I was.
I feel like I have ruined my life before it has even begun. Aside from counselling, what else can I do? I feel guilty and ashamed and disgusted by myself but up until a few months ago I hadn't thought about it and hadn't ruminated over it. I feel like I will a) never get my ex back because of this and because I lied and b) I feel like even if i do get someone else, i will end up telling them this and it will mess the relationship up. I was looking online and people were saying there should be no secrets between partners.
I sound like a maniac in this post, I'm not I am honestly just a normal girl who has gone through some tough times and deeply regrets things. I know now that my sexual fantasy was deeply immoral but I'm always like I can't believe you did that. I feel really guilty all the time and recently it has gotten worse, I honestly don't know why because I was dealing with everything really well. Can anyone give me any advice? thanks
*Also can I add that i did suffer from intrusive thoughts as my previous posts show. That's why I decided to blame it on my OCD intrusive thoughts because I did suffer from intrusive thoughts however my sexual fantasy was not intrusive
I think this is where my guilt OCD started. I would ruminate and feel guilty all the time. As you can tell it only caused more problems. I used to be a terrible, basically a compulsive liar. He was my first boyfriend and I realised that I was such an immoral person and telling the truth and being overly honest was my way of trying to become a better person.
So last month we split up. It has affected me and I am going through stages where I feel I will never meet anyone else, I'm really depressed etc.
My OCD and ruminating caused me to remember some really disgusting, immoral, weird sexual fantasies that I had had up until earlier this year. They had gone on for around 1 or 2 years. I had thought nothing of them and always considered myself a pretty sane person. But after remembering this I realised that it was sick, immoral and I felt so guilty and ashamed. I told my boyfriend because I couldn't stand the feeling inside me anymore. He didn't take it too well... he though I must be some sort of psycho.
Basically everytime we would argue he would call me a creep or a psycho. We ended our relationship because he became distant and told me I had "pushed him away." I still love him so much but he kept saying he was going to go around and tell everyone about me because of how much i'd hurt him. i then lied to him about it and now i feel even worse.
I don't know if he has told everyone, he has insinuated that he has a few times and i am so paranoid now. I lied to him and now I don't think I could ever get back with him because I lied and it would always be on my mind and I'm so angry at myself for it because I cannot supress my guilt. I broke his heart with all this stuff, and now he is angry and hates me. He won't talk to me so I have decided to leave it.
Now I am on my own, I feel down all the time. I go out, socialise, all that but its times like this when I'm alone I just feel so guilty about everythig and feel like I'm going to have to tell my next boyfriend about my perverted fantasies because I cannot keep it to myself. I keep thinking I must be some sort of monster. It isn't a normal fantasy but I know there are people who have done it and this has made me feel slightly better, however I look at people and think "I bet you haven't done this" and I look at them and think how lucky they are they werent stupid/sick enough to masturbate to this and they dont have to put up with these feelings. I know teenagers have so many raging hormones, ive not had a great teenage life either (something happened when i was 12) but I feel like an absolute sicko.
I don't want to reveal what it is but i told my ex that it was intrusive thoughts, that I hadn't wanted to think about it and I hadn't masturbated to it. But that isn't true: When I told him i was basically trying to convey that I had WILLINGLY thought of these things and had masturbated to it and how ashamed I was.
I feel like I have ruined my life before it has even begun. Aside from counselling, what else can I do? I feel guilty and ashamed and disgusted by myself but up until a few months ago I hadn't thought about it and hadn't ruminated over it. I feel like I will a) never get my ex back because of this and because I lied and b) I feel like even if i do get someone else, i will end up telling them this and it will mess the relationship up. I was looking online and people were saying there should be no secrets between partners.
I sound like a maniac in this post, I'm not I am honestly just a normal girl who has gone through some tough times and deeply regrets things. I know now that my sexual fantasy was deeply immoral but I'm always like I can't believe you did that. I feel really guilty all the time and recently it has gotten worse, I honestly don't know why because I was dealing with everything really well. Can anyone give me any advice? thanks
*Also can I add that i did suffer from intrusive thoughts as my previous posts show. That's why I decided to blame it on my OCD intrusive thoughts because I did suffer from intrusive thoughts however my sexual fantasy was not intrusive