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[Nicki22]

hi all...id like to introduce myself...
My name is Nicki im a 22 yr old female from uk
i have suffered panic attacks social phobia since around the age of 13
i really dont know the anwsers why i really would like to..
There are a lot of times i panic..i cant go out alone..i cant be alone at all..since havin my own place wiv my fiance i listen out 4 the least little noise and panic daft as it may sound..if my fiance stays up to play on the xbox i cant go to bed alone so i have to sleep on the sofa until he's ready to go up...i cant go out of my own front door alone to take rubbish to the bin or answer the door if anyone there..its the same if the phone rings i leave my fiance to anwser..i have to relay on my fiance all the time a lot of times i sit and cry bcos of wot i go through and having to relay on him 24-7..i feel trapped and alone even though my fiance is ere 4 me..

sorry for going on and on lol..i hope to get to know ppl that also goes through wot i do... chat soon xxx

[darkangel]

hi nikki

I am so glad you have found this site, you will find lots of great information to help you and meet many friends who know what it is like to feel the way you do.

Your fiance sounds like a really great guy and I am sure with his support you will be able to take steps forward in overcoming the anxiety.

Are you getting any therapy or on any meds for this ?

darkangel

........life is for living not just for surviving

[Nicki22]

i used to take tablets a while ago now...to me they dint seem to help me...im thinkin of going back to the docs but they just seem to give me tablets and no help...

[darkangel]

hi nikki

maybe you could speak things over again with you doctor and ask him about other treatments if you are not too keen to go back on meds. Have a good look around this site and you will find lots of good advice and information.

Darkangel

........life is for living not just for surviving

[Daisybun]

Hi Nicki and welcome. Sorry you are having such a hard time, I know it is hard to imagine but you can get through this. there are lots of people who are on this site that are going through the same things as you, hang on in there. You'll find help and support here. Your fiance sounds a very kind and caring guy. I think you should try and see your GP again, I know meds are yuck but it may help get your confidence back and then you can start getting on with your life. I really feel for you as i am having horrid symptoms that make me afraid to leave the house too. Just remember you are not alone.

Take care
Daisybun

'This too will pass'

[Nicki22]

Thanks for the help guys...Im really going to have to go back to the docs i hate having to as i hate talking about my problems..If it wasnt for my Fiance being ere for my i think my world would have fallen apart a very long time ago x

[jackie]

oh nicki

i hope you feel less alone with this site and i really hope you get the strength to get better no matter how hard

i hope we all get better

jackie

[Nicki22]

thanks jackie hun.. i too hope we all can get better ive been like this since i was 13 and its really getting harder to get better..i dont know wot to do next to help myself

[chedda]

hia nicki and welcome:D
im in the same boat as you so to speak i dont go out the house full stop but i can go and put rubbish out ect.It is hard and its not nice but i have found a lot of positive help and advice on here and im sure you will do the same...im not on medication cos i really dont like the side effects but talk to your doctor if you cant get there then they will come to you if you have an understanding doc and try and get some therapy aswell...im waiting for cbt
take care ....pm me if you want to talk:D
cherylxx

[Nicki22]

hiya chedda hun x
i also dont take medication bcos of side effects..
it b gr8 to chat to anyone on msn if u have the same probs as me we can try help each other x
my email is nickilovesgareth@hotmail.com

[clickaway]

Hi Nicki and welcome to the forum.

I would advise going to your GP again and ask about being referred to the local mental health team to see what kind of therapy would be suitable.

It's so often a case of facing up to these fears by taking them on in baby steps. Is the dustbin a fear because it is outside, or is it in a threatening location away from your back door?

CBT may help you, and if so it is possible to get this on the phone via No Panic for a very modest outlay, especially if you have to wait a while to gey specialist help on the NHS.

Take Care,


Ray
http://www.anxietyrelease.org.uk/

And when you get the choice to sit it out or dance, I hope you dance.
~Mark Sanders and Tia Sillers

[hayles]

A very warm welcome to you

Hay x

[giddy]

Welcome to the forum Nicki
Love Helen

[Nicki22]

going to the dustbin or even taking my dog out is a fear for me bcos its going out alone..only time i go into our garden is wiv my fiance

[EmmaJane]

Hi Nicki,


I can understand how you feel.. When my anxiety started I was a bit older than you, I didnt know what it was at the time. I was going backwards and forwards to the doctor, being palmed off.

Then I finally got diagnosed and put on tablets after my 3rd child was born. I didnt get any help other than tablets, for which I came off as I didnt think they were helping me.

Eventually I moved from the area and ended up seeing a councillor, this has helped me greatly and along with this and understand anxiety/depression etc now, it has helped me move on and get my life back.

I am babbling a bit now, but by all means pm me and we can chat properly if youlike.

Just wanted to let you know, I understand.



Feel free to PM me, if you want to talk.

Emma xx

Keep focused, keep positive.

[manmoor]

Hi Nicki,

Welcome aboard. You will make lots of friends here.

Mandy xx

[nomorepanic]

Hi Nicki
Welcome aboard.

You can better but it takes small steps and patience and hard work so ask the doctor for a referral for some therapy and help.

Lovely to see you here.

Nicola

[Nicki22]

thanks everyone for the warm welcome..im hopeing to make a lot of new friends xx

feel free to msg me anytime x

[trac67]

Hi Nicki,

Welcome to the forum, you will get a lot of good advice here and make some new friends.

Take care
Trac xx

'Live your life with arms wide open, today is where your book begins, the rest is still unwritten'

[polly daydream]

Welcome to the site Nicki.

Best wishes

Polly x

[Nicki22]

thanks guys for the warm welcome...im gonna feel really settled ere...i really like this site

[marie ross]

Hi Nicki,

Welcome to the forum i hope you find a lot of help here, i have, everyone here has been so kind and helpful, and they will always listen to you no matter how small you think your problem is.

Take care.

Marie XXX

[Meggy]

Hi Nicki -
I came here maybe now it's been a few weeks ago. I knew I had problems, I thought two, silly me, but I posted a lot. A lot responded with insights into these things I knew nothing about. Now I think I felt the problems I've had were hopeless so I ignored them? I don't know. I was seeing a counselor but he made me switch to someone who specializes in panic disoders and PTSD. Any counselor is better than none, but if you can fine one that specializes, for me it's been really helpful. Taking anti depressants and anti anxietals helped me a lot too some years back but I can no longer take them, darn it, because they interfere with other meds I have to take now. SSRIs I think are usually prescribed. There are quite a few. At the time I took an SSRI I felt only smoothed out, no side effects which I tend to get.

I certainly know the screechy panic if someone knocks on my door. I've hiden for hours when someone I don't know, even someone I do know at times, knocks on my door and I rarely answer the phone.

People are telling you little steps? It's true. But I've taken some or ok ONE step and gosh, I can see even with one step forward, I can feel better. Keep posting. People here are exceptional.

Meggy

[Nicki22]

Hey again guys...i was on a low last nite...i was havin a good day too.. i sat and cryed my eyes out thinkin of all my problems...which made me have a panic attack..i dint get to sleep until around 3am..i couldnt settle after the attack..i was left wiv pains in my chest feeling sick faint really hot it was like i was in my own little world if ya know wot i mean
As anyone else thought of there problems and its made a attack come on ?

[Paddington]

hi Nicki,welcome ,i am so glad you have found us!I too think that therapy,specialy cbt is the way 4ward[i have never had any but listening to these guys i sure wishi had!]I tis too easy to think of all our problems and of course it wil make you panic and be full of anguish,you will despair and feel hopeless,so my sweet,DONT DO IT!!I have sat here on my tod and wept and shuddered and then thought about my own death and terrified myself into a huge panic,I try nowNOT TO DO IT.Have you noticed how much easier it is to think negative thoughts than conjure up good ones??That is the key hun,swop one for another,mmm you think what good thoughts?Well if you have NO good memories[i am sure there are a few with your chap!!]then make them up!!Go in your mind wherever you want to go,YEP ANYWHERE!Sit and see beauty and warmth and shopping and going out and you loving it.This is called visualisation and it doeshelp,and gets easier with practice[kinda fun too]also cd's are good,paul mkenna has some good ones ,i think they have worked wonders 4 me,you can get them on the net too,bout 8quid!You have all of us too,so keep talking .Feel better soon.love Mary-Rose.xxxxx

we are all in the same boat and can guide each other ashore

[Meggy]

Hi Nicki -

Ohhhh I'm sorry you had a rough night. As Mary Rose said I do a lot of visualization. I learned how to do this in a long course of biofedback but anyone can teach themselves. The more I did it, the easier it became. It helps put me somewhere safer feeling, occupies my mind so I don't start dwelling on things that frighten and in my case, anger me.

Sometimes after a bad panic attack I feel physically tense. I can't seem to relax my muscles and have all sorts of symptoms. Maybe that happened to you? I was told too that there can be an adrenaline let down that creates all kinds of symptoms, those I"m not sure how to handle. But if I'm tense in my muscles, can't let it go? I get up and just MAKE myself move with music on. Whatever music you like. The worst thing I can do is sit and sit because my mind goes bonkers with fears, negative thoughts. My current musical love is Andrea Bocelli. But we all have our music preferences. Mine changes constantly. I also will submerge myself in a hot bath to release that tension which seems to help me a lot but I can't be alone in the house, makes me feel too vulnerable.

Someone has a message at the end of all their postings I learned as a child and at 57 I still say it to myself as a mantra. It's a line from a prayer "and this too shall pass". Remember that, think of it. Whatever you're feeling? You won't stay like that forever, it is for that moment, the next hour or day will be different. Life will not hold still, it will pass.

Meggy

[Karen]

Hi Nicki

Welcome to the forum.

You'll find a lot of support here.

Karen



Happiness is not a state to arrive at but a manner of travelling.

You only live once, but if you do it right, once is enough ~ Christine Cagney, Cagney & Lacey

[Nicki22]

Thanks for the help guys
Im hopeing to go see my doctor...befor i go im going to write everything down i go through that way i wont leave anything out...lets hope i get somewere this time and find out wot problems ive got as none of the doctors ive seen have told me just given me tablets