So worried about handing in my notice at work!

[GirlAfraid23]

Hi there everyone,

Wel I'm very worried about handing in my notice at work.
Its not until July that I'll be doing it but already I'm having a nightmares about it and everytime I'm at work I feel sick especially when I was offered a course that would be a pay rise the other day. My manager thinks very highly of me and always speaks well of me, giving me good reviews and so on.

I am leaving to train as a primary school teacher and have been accepted onto a very well established course, one of the best in the country in fact.
I was of course astounded that I even got a place but have been worrying about my current job ever since. It will be a full time course and everyday I will be working and teaching in a school so I will have little to no time to myself.

The job I am currently in is retail, its part time with a low wage and not much opportunity to move up the ranks as it were.
I have a degree and reasonable education/experience behind me so being offered this opportunity has really been a blessing for me. They also have 100% employment rate for teachers which is very rare.

I hope you guys can help me, I know its a long way off but in true anxiety style I have already drafted my resignation letter!

I'm so scared of their reaction and especially since I have to work a 4 week notice period :(

[pinkdove]

Hi there, first of all congratulations on getting a place on your course, well done!!!
As for your present job, i'm sure they will be very pleased for you, that you are going to start a career of your choice, no one expects you to stay in the same job forever.

Try not to think about that just now, you have a couple of months to go before you have to tell them, and you want to enjoy the rest of your time there.

But everyone try's to better themselves, and get a career they are going to enjoy, and you are no different, but i'm sure you will find when the time comes, they are very understanding and happy for you, so look forward to your new career, and enjoy the rest of the time in your present job.once again well done to you XX

[Connor_cbt]

I recently (well in august) quit the job I had been doing for the last seven years,
my daughter started school and i took the opportunity to change
careers. I did all the things you would expect from a fellow anxious person,
I spent the preceding weeks turning it over and over in my mind.

Although i really didn't like the work i was doing, it was the best paid job i
had ever done and in the short term was really secure, so the thoughts of
'am i making a mistake?' and 'am i being selfish?' were often in my mind
but the closer it got the more frantic those doubtful questions became, and
then more were added such as 'How will they take it?' 'will they be angry
and make the next month a living hell?'

The more and more i asked myself these questions I became more anxious,
and the more anxious i became the less they seemed like questions and
more like i was telling myself i KNEW it would be that way.

Then one day I decided that, I was 100% certain i was leaving and when,
so what was the point in delaying telling them? If they did get angry or
whatever anger doesn't last forever and sure enough i had colleagues
poking fun and making comments for a bit but it soon settled down.
People did look at me like i was mad when i ran the idea past them, but
In all it turned out to be the best move i could have made! Once people
got used to the idea they were really encouraging, my boss was grateful
that I had been honest and given them loads more notice than they
required, and most importantly I had asserted myself and freed myself
from all that unnecessary planning and anxiety.

What you have done is commendable, you are bettering yourself and doing
everything you are contractually obliged (and therefore all that can be
expected) to do. You can never control how someone else will behave,
all you can do is choose how you will think/feel about it and knowing that
you are doing it the right way for the right reason should be everything
you need :)

Also try to remember that generally us anxious people like predictability
and stability in life, so the changes you're planning might just be elevating
your anxiety a little more than usual but stick with it, it sounds like you
have a great career ahead of you! :yesyes:

Best of luck in whatever you do,