snowwhite
21-03-12, 17:29
Hello everyone........
Well, this is a bit urgent! ...
About 10 days ago, or so....our 27 yr. old son (who lives in the renovated upstairs apt. from us) came downstairs and told me that his upper right quadrant abdomen was hurting, under the breast,,now immed. I thought..gallbladder! We spent hours researching this, and he just paced and paced, holding his upper right abdomen..it wasn't BAD pain, ;but it was pain nonethless...now, a little while later, it moved down farther into the lower abdomen....which I thought would be strange for gallbladder. Then it began to "burn"....he could only drink water, that seemed to relieve it. For the next few days, this "pain", burning , and aching went on and off ..... he started not sleeping well at all....he also felt hungry,but was to afraid to eat,,,I don't blame him. Fast forward to last Wed. (one week ago today)...he finally decided to go to the ER, we went with him of course, and after an exam, and blood work, they decided it was PROBABLY IBS related, and gave him Bentyl and some other med. (I forgot the name) for nausea.....
Well........that wasn't the end of the story, and somehow that night, I knew it wouldn't be. Sure enough, the NEXT DAY, here we go again! But, THIS TIME IT WAS MUCH WORSE! However, now, the pain was more central mid abdomen, sort of around the belly button, and also down farther as well..........oh, and also over to the right, lower. At this point, he was visibly shaken (as was I) and he laid on our couch here, in PAIN .... he described it as being a 10..on a scale of 1-10 .... he said he would get spasms in there too .... with some burning and acid reflux, and nausea.
He had taken the Benryl, but had little effect. So, finally around 3pm, he decided to go BACK to the ER again.........well, after a lovely hour and a half wait in the waiting room....we were finally brought into an examining room.......where we proceeded to wait ANOTHER 2 hrs. before a dr. was available....he laid there in bad pain! My heart broke. They had started an IV drip of saline, because he hadn't been able to eat or drink......finally, they gave him MORPHINE for the pain....then, blood work, urinalysis, an upper chest x-ray, and a CT scan..........all came back fine!......so, the dr. (who was really a very nice and very intelligent woman) said she thought it MIGHT be either a virus or some kind of bacteria! When I asked her wouldn't that show up in the blood or urine, she said no...not necessarily! So, wow...i didn't know that.
Okay, end of long long story......... finally, after 9 hrs. in the ER, he was released.....she gave him Lortabs for the pain, and more of that nausea med...and prevacid RX..............she knew he already had the Bentyl at home......now, the next day (6 days ago), he seemed better! WHAT A RELIEF....no real pain, just soreness in the guts. OK, fine. But, as you might expect.....THAT DIDN'T LAST! I had a feeling about that. So, by the next day again..............here we go with the pain again! .... it hasn't migrated back up to the upper right (under the right breast)....it is mainly, in the central to lower abdomen.....and somewhat over to the right.
Once again, it's none of his organs, which we found out in the CT scan, and chest x-ray...........(and blood work).......
Now, this is when it began to dawn on me.......MAYBE THIS IS ANXIETY!
He has LOTS of anxiety...like myself. He is a very sensitive person, and holds a lot in.....he alwasy has. He harbors a lot of resentment towards his dad (my husb.) and his younger brother......he is actaully a very outgoing and personable guy, very smiley, very funny and friendly...but, this masks what's really going on inside....he has told me that himself.
He has NOT been able to keep a job in a number of years now, due to SEVERE ANXIETY RELATED SYMPTOMS, such as ....BAD headaches, nausea, intestinal problems by the truckload...., all kinds of BAD pains and aches all over his body (which is like me), ... lightheadedness, off balance feelings (also like me!).....yeah, he cannot keep a job! So, this has made him feel very worthless and bad about himself........but, I 've told him so many times over the years, how much we love him, and how important he is to us and our family! Our sons have always gotten a TREMENDOUS amt of love and hugs and kisses from me...I am that type...I was raised like that too, so it's just natural for me........they have NEVER gone a day of their life, without hugs and kisses, and me telling them how great they are ... and they are...they are very sweet, gentle, and caring young men........
But, about a year ago........his girlfriend of 5 yrs. decided, she didn't want to "do this anymore".....now, that nearly killed him. She just stopped talking to him, she didn't ans. her phone, didn't email him, didn't text him....NOTHING! Yes, she DID tell him once, that she was to overwhelmed by her life (she has definate emotional issues, very bad actually.....and he was always there for her, always her support!) .... and she needed an INDEFINATE break......she didn't know for how long, and IF, she'd even come back to him! Well, I can tell you all, that was a bad bad blow!
He did his usual, and kept it all in! I kept trying to talk to him about it, and we can always talk....and we did.......but, even still, it was killing him!
He went through all the phases....anger, resentment, terrible hurt and saddness, disbelief, ANXIETY, panic....you name it......that was last april.
During this last 11 months, he emailed her and she never wrote back......he didn't bombard her, this was just once and a while.......he did text her once, a few months ago.......no response. However, just a few days ago, out of the blue, in the middle of all this horrible abd. pain stuff and ER visits...lo and behold, she sent him an email! (he hadn't written her about the ER visits beforehand at all) ....for some reason, she emailed him. NOthing big, just saying hello, and causal conversation......he said it sounded cold and distant. On one hand he was glad to hear from her, and on the other, he didn't really know what to make of it....she sounded cold.
So........there we are. I tried to give you some history there...bec. I think that has a lot to do with all of this..................
If anyone her can shed some light on this, please do! I am so nervous about this, he is still in pain today, mid central to lower abd....he says it spasms, or just plain hurts...........he has no problem urinating, but I don't believe he's had a BM in days....well, he's NOT EATING! He's lost a good amt. of weight too...which in one way was good, he was a little over weight..... but he is really suffering here, and I don't know what to do....
If this sounds like anxiety related, let me know..........if anyone has anything similar, please, please, please.........post!.....
thank you all so much!
Well, this is a bit urgent! ...
About 10 days ago, or so....our 27 yr. old son (who lives in the renovated upstairs apt. from us) came downstairs and told me that his upper right quadrant abdomen was hurting, under the breast,,now immed. I thought..gallbladder! We spent hours researching this, and he just paced and paced, holding his upper right abdomen..it wasn't BAD pain, ;but it was pain nonethless...now, a little while later, it moved down farther into the lower abdomen....which I thought would be strange for gallbladder. Then it began to "burn"....he could only drink water, that seemed to relieve it. For the next few days, this "pain", burning , and aching went on and off ..... he started not sleeping well at all....he also felt hungry,but was to afraid to eat,,,I don't blame him. Fast forward to last Wed. (one week ago today)...he finally decided to go to the ER, we went with him of course, and after an exam, and blood work, they decided it was PROBABLY IBS related, and gave him Bentyl and some other med. (I forgot the name) for nausea.....
Well........that wasn't the end of the story, and somehow that night, I knew it wouldn't be. Sure enough, the NEXT DAY, here we go again! But, THIS TIME IT WAS MUCH WORSE! However, now, the pain was more central mid abdomen, sort of around the belly button, and also down farther as well..........oh, and also over to the right, lower. At this point, he was visibly shaken (as was I) and he laid on our couch here, in PAIN .... he described it as being a 10..on a scale of 1-10 .... he said he would get spasms in there too .... with some burning and acid reflux, and nausea.
He had taken the Benryl, but had little effect. So, finally around 3pm, he decided to go BACK to the ER again.........well, after a lovely hour and a half wait in the waiting room....we were finally brought into an examining room.......where we proceeded to wait ANOTHER 2 hrs. before a dr. was available....he laid there in bad pain! My heart broke. They had started an IV drip of saline, because he hadn't been able to eat or drink......finally, they gave him MORPHINE for the pain....then, blood work, urinalysis, an upper chest x-ray, and a CT scan..........all came back fine!......so, the dr. (who was really a very nice and very intelligent woman) said she thought it MIGHT be either a virus or some kind of bacteria! When I asked her wouldn't that show up in the blood or urine, she said no...not necessarily! So, wow...i didn't know that.
Okay, end of long long story......... finally, after 9 hrs. in the ER, he was released.....she gave him Lortabs for the pain, and more of that nausea med...and prevacid RX..............she knew he already had the Bentyl at home......now, the next day (6 days ago), he seemed better! WHAT A RELIEF....no real pain, just soreness in the guts. OK, fine. But, as you might expect.....THAT DIDN'T LAST! I had a feeling about that. So, by the next day again..............here we go with the pain again! .... it hasn't migrated back up to the upper right (under the right breast)....it is mainly, in the central to lower abdomen.....and somewhat over to the right.
Once again, it's none of his organs, which we found out in the CT scan, and chest x-ray...........(and blood work).......
Now, this is when it began to dawn on me.......MAYBE THIS IS ANXIETY!
He has LOTS of anxiety...like myself. He is a very sensitive person, and holds a lot in.....he alwasy has. He harbors a lot of resentment towards his dad (my husb.) and his younger brother......he is actaully a very outgoing and personable guy, very smiley, very funny and friendly...but, this masks what's really going on inside....he has told me that himself.
He has NOT been able to keep a job in a number of years now, due to SEVERE ANXIETY RELATED SYMPTOMS, such as ....BAD headaches, nausea, intestinal problems by the truckload...., all kinds of BAD pains and aches all over his body (which is like me), ... lightheadedness, off balance feelings (also like me!).....yeah, he cannot keep a job! So, this has made him feel very worthless and bad about himself........but, I 've told him so many times over the years, how much we love him, and how important he is to us and our family! Our sons have always gotten a TREMENDOUS amt of love and hugs and kisses from me...I am that type...I was raised like that too, so it's just natural for me........they have NEVER gone a day of their life, without hugs and kisses, and me telling them how great they are ... and they are...they are very sweet, gentle, and caring young men........
But, about a year ago........his girlfriend of 5 yrs. decided, she didn't want to "do this anymore".....now, that nearly killed him. She just stopped talking to him, she didn't ans. her phone, didn't email him, didn't text him....NOTHING! Yes, she DID tell him once, that she was to overwhelmed by her life (she has definate emotional issues, very bad actually.....and he was always there for her, always her support!) .... and she needed an INDEFINATE break......she didn't know for how long, and IF, she'd even come back to him! Well, I can tell you all, that was a bad bad blow!
He did his usual, and kept it all in! I kept trying to talk to him about it, and we can always talk....and we did.......but, even still, it was killing him!
He went through all the phases....anger, resentment, terrible hurt and saddness, disbelief, ANXIETY, panic....you name it......that was last april.
During this last 11 months, he emailed her and she never wrote back......he didn't bombard her, this was just once and a while.......he did text her once, a few months ago.......no response. However, just a few days ago, out of the blue, in the middle of all this horrible abd. pain stuff and ER visits...lo and behold, she sent him an email! (he hadn't written her about the ER visits beforehand at all) ....for some reason, she emailed him. NOthing big, just saying hello, and causal conversation......he said it sounded cold and distant. On one hand he was glad to hear from her, and on the other, he didn't really know what to make of it....she sounded cold.
So........there we are. I tried to give you some history there...bec. I think that has a lot to do with all of this..................
If anyone her can shed some light on this, please do! I am so nervous about this, he is still in pain today, mid central to lower abd....he says it spasms, or just plain hurts...........he has no problem urinating, but I don't believe he's had a BM in days....well, he's NOT EATING! He's lost a good amt. of weight too...which in one way was good, he was a little over weight..... but he is really suffering here, and I don't know what to do....
If this sounds like anxiety related, let me know..........if anyone has anything similar, please, please, please.........post!.....
thank you all so much!