Fedex
17-04-12, 12:35
When a person with this spike theme makes an effort to use emotional reactivity, to justify his or her own level of commitment, the most common outcome is to feel either nothing or just anxiety. During intimate moments where the OCD sufferer finds that he or she happens to be experiencing fulfillment with his or her partner, a spike often accompanies this realization and the experience of stimulation evaporates. Attempting to critically analyze one's level of arousal has the predictable and paradoxical effect of removing the original experience. Sexually speaking, erections are lost and lubrication evaporates when focus is placed on the need to maintain arousal to prove that one's physical signals clearly signify that one is with the "right" person. Ultimately, there is no proof or test as to one's justification for being in a relationship. The infinite variables which persons justify remaining in a relationship are too complex to develop a model, which can be used to reliably guide ourselves or others. Consequently, we are left with the notion of the "unjustified choice" to either remain in, or to terminate the relationship. This phrase implies that one chooses to be determined and committed to another person. One can not conceptualize through endless ruminations the reasons for ending a relationship or justify remaining in one. Hence the phrase "There are no answers, only choices!"