NoPoet
29-04-12, 15:14
Tu ne cede malis sed contra audentior ito
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Hi all,
Some of you have seen my "PsychoPoet Research Initiative" threads. Well this is looking to be the next one. This post will be updated as I discover more useful or up to date information.
I've been studying the reasons WHY so many people suffer from anxiety and depression, and WHY medication, therapy etc are not always completely successful.
I believe I am onto something that could lead to a permanent cure for all or most of us who suffer from anxiety related disorders. Yes, I know that sounds a bit over the top, but hear me out.
You may have seen some of this stuff in my other threads, especially the threads I created since starting CBT. I'm trying to bring it together in one major thread, a kind of survival guide for all anxiety related conditions. Some of this stuff may be completely new to people, which is a shame, because this is the stuff that is really going on behind the scenes of our illness, and it is my firm belief that a lot of people are going to benefit if they put some of this stuff into practice.
In the Beginning: Why do we suffer anxiety disorders?
Is it possible that we suffer from anxiety-related conditions, not just because we are more vulnerable than other people by our nature (which is beyond the scope of this thread because I'm not God, luckily for chavs), but because we have failed to develop proper coping strategies?
We instead rely on basic, natural strategies that are good for short-term relief but create problems in the long run. Avoidance and denial are two perfect examples. Both of these lead to building tension, increased stress, and eventually they spill over into other areas of our lives until we simply cannot handle anything, but we cannot avoid or deny them any more. Wham, you have a breakdown.
We cannot prevent a predisposition towards fear, melancholy or anxiety because, as previously mentioned, we are not God. This isn't an episode of Voyager where we can spend ten minutes spouting technobabble and suddenly re-write our DNA.
The role of the Ego in anxiety disorders
People with ego problems (as in identity and self-esteem, not as in arrogance), are probably more likely to develop inefficient coping strategies, since they secretly believe they cannot handle life, they're not good enough, they're not worthy, etc.
Let's face it, you are not really going to struggle with life if you possess a total self-assuredness, and your response to danger is naturally "bring it on!".
Ego problems may be the cause behind a lot of anxiety related disorders such as depression. True, these disorders are often brought about by a person's environment, eg loss of a job during a recession and you can't afford your mortgage, or being abused as a child etc, and depression in particular is regarded by some as a "force for change" - a strong warning that something in your life needs to be change immediately - but why is it that some people simply cannot seem to cope, where others just can? Why do some people develop depression after a loss, or GAD when under threat?
It is my belief that the ego has a massive role to play in our mental health. If we unconsciously believe that we are worthless, we are vulnerable, we are going to suffer, people won't accept or like us, we are going to fail because we lack talent etc, we are basically on a collision course with fate: something will eventually happen that we feel unable to cope with, and that's when disorders develop.
If you're reading this and it sounds like I'm talking about you, you definitely have issues with your ego, and you might find that these are not only the original source of your current illness, they also act as rocket fuel for the illness once it has taken over.
So where does this leave us? Well, for a start it explains a number of things, not just about your current condition but about many things throughout your life. Do you feel alone and friendless? Maybe you pine to have friends and be out in the world, but you just can't hack it? Maybe you just can't face starting something new in case you fail and get laughed at, or when you do start something new you spend so long trying to get it perfect that your own hobbies exhaust you rather than relax you. Maybe you're scared to talk to the opposite sex in case you're rejected.
You have a negative belief system. (You might call this an inferiority complex if it relates entirely to a sense of worthlessness in relation to others and their work.) A negative belief system generates negative thoughts, which in turn generate negative feelings and negative behaviour. Over time, this can grow and complicate, until negative thoughts run rampant, destroying your confidence and in extreme cases, your will to do anything, maybe even live.
Every time the expected outcome does happen to you - so you do speak to someone you fancy, but they tell you to sod off, or you cock it up completely and make a fool of yourself - it reinforces your negative belief system. You believe it even more completely. You are even less likely to try again in future. You become even more trapped, you suffer even more distress, and have actual physical proof that your negative beliefs are valid.
A more serious problem is how negative belief systems are self-reinforcing. You make the feared outcomes happen. You may be so convinced that other people won't like you that your behaviour pushes people away. You are so convinced that you don't deserve to be in a relationship that your partner gets fed up of your clinginess and constant requests for reassurance, and you split up; or you just don't get together with anyone. You constantly pass up chances for happiness and change because you don't believe good things can happen to you, and that nothing good does ever happen anyway.
So, you fear that you will always be alone because you are somehow cursed or repugnant, but it is your behaviour and attitude that drive other people away or prevent them from getting close to you.
You curse the world, you curse fate and most of all you curse yourself, never knowing for one minute how things can be any different.
Unhelpful treatments for ego problems and negative belief systems
Cue a trip to the doctor's for some counselling and medication! Unfortunately, your doctor doesn't have a clue what's "wrong" with you, and it may be several weeks before you get any kind of help, during which time your self-sustaining condition deteriorates.
You might get antidepressants, which can help you to feel better in general, but they don't fix the core beliefs or the ego problems which made you ill in the first place. There is the issue of side effects, which can make you feel worse for a while at a time where you desperately need some relief.
You may get counselling, which can get your life back on track and improve things considerably, but unless you have an exceptionally talented, perceptive and/or qualified counsellor, the counselling might not go deep enough. Person-centred counselling gives you a wonderful opportunity to vent, but it doesn't get into the ego, the id, mental defences etc, it won't really go into your past, and it can make you reliant on the counsellor (yet another ego issue which this article will discuss at some point). It will tell you what you need to change about your thinking and behaviour, but it won't tell you how.
Also, the NHS or your country's equivalent may only offer a limited number of sessions which may have a long waiting list. This is the BANE of people who need help quickly but have to wait for protracted periods.
Why do people not recover, or suffer from a relapse?
It is my belief that people who don't recover, or who recover and subsequently relapse, have not identified or successfully dealt with something that is central to the problem.
Even if a person was working diligently to change for the better, they might still relapse, so how does that work? Well it's the same thing with "treatement resistant" depression, where people have tried between 3 and 6 different therapies and medications but are still depressed. If you read research into this, medication treatment has significant drop-out rates, which means people are giving up on the medication for some reason.
It may be that most people who give up on meds do so as soon as the first side-effects hit, and the side effects don't disappear within the first few weeks. In some cases, and I have been stupid enough to do this, people reduce or drop their doses when they have been feeling better for a while, or they run out and can't be bothered to get an immediate replacement prescription. Going "cold turkey" from medication has a very high probability of causing a relapse into the illness. Even missing a few doses can put you back several weeks.
I'm not going to be arrogant and say everything I just said above applies to everyone. At this stage, there's no way to know why some people simply don't respond to medication or therapy. You should bear in mind that 80% of people who suffer from depression recover without any treatment at all, because they develop adequate coping strategies: exactly the sort of thing we can't do - yet.
Medication seems to be the first line treatment for anxiety and depression, although some modern research shows that a lot of sufferers could be cured without medication if their illness was treated quickly enough with the appropriate therapy. We all know someone who knows someone who's been on antidepressants for 14 years. Maybe some people do need them for years, but if you think about it, do you really believe that if you received appropriate therapy and worked every day on your recovery skills, you will need treatment for that long?
How is medication going to change the fact that at your core, you are a naturally nervous person who developed a deep-seated inferiority complex? It can paper over those cracks, but it you've ever felt like there's a "toxic energy sump" inside you, draining your vitality and confidence away into a bottomless vortex, this means that behind the scenes you have a negative belief system that is in action even now, even though you can't consciously hear it or see it.
Filling the void: Changing your negative belief system
This is the bit that will require commitment on your part. By commitment, I mean you must be devoted to it, you must put effort and work into it, you must put serious consideration into the causes of your problems. You must be prepared to spend weeks working on it to see the slightest benefits; you must understand and accept that if you've had problems all your life, it is may be a couple of years before you have resolved all of these problems and "internalised" the new way of living.
Internalising something means accepting it as a true part of yourself. At the minute, if someone calls you names, you accept that what they say is true because you already believe it yourself. You are allowing your negative belief system to be reinforced.
A few weeks or months further down the line, if someone calls you a name, you are going to be able to simply shrug it off, and maybe even think "Who does that moron think he is?" If you start a new project, you may not have total confidence, but the thought of failure will be motivating rather than daunting ("If I fail, who cares, I'm not doing this to prove anything to the world, I'm doing it because I love it and I'll give it a bloody shot!").
Life is like a game of tennis. Life WILL hit you in the face with the ball until you learn to return its serve.
= More to follow =
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Hi all,
Some of you have seen my "PsychoPoet Research Initiative" threads. Well this is looking to be the next one. This post will be updated as I discover more useful or up to date information.
I've been studying the reasons WHY so many people suffer from anxiety and depression, and WHY medication, therapy etc are not always completely successful.
I believe I am onto something that could lead to a permanent cure for all or most of us who suffer from anxiety related disorders. Yes, I know that sounds a bit over the top, but hear me out.
You may have seen some of this stuff in my other threads, especially the threads I created since starting CBT. I'm trying to bring it together in one major thread, a kind of survival guide for all anxiety related conditions. Some of this stuff may be completely new to people, which is a shame, because this is the stuff that is really going on behind the scenes of our illness, and it is my firm belief that a lot of people are going to benefit if they put some of this stuff into practice.
In the Beginning: Why do we suffer anxiety disorders?
Is it possible that we suffer from anxiety-related conditions, not just because we are more vulnerable than other people by our nature (which is beyond the scope of this thread because I'm not God, luckily for chavs), but because we have failed to develop proper coping strategies?
We instead rely on basic, natural strategies that are good for short-term relief but create problems in the long run. Avoidance and denial are two perfect examples. Both of these lead to building tension, increased stress, and eventually they spill over into other areas of our lives until we simply cannot handle anything, but we cannot avoid or deny them any more. Wham, you have a breakdown.
We cannot prevent a predisposition towards fear, melancholy or anxiety because, as previously mentioned, we are not God. This isn't an episode of Voyager where we can spend ten minutes spouting technobabble and suddenly re-write our DNA.
The role of the Ego in anxiety disorders
People with ego problems (as in identity and self-esteem, not as in arrogance), are probably more likely to develop inefficient coping strategies, since they secretly believe they cannot handle life, they're not good enough, they're not worthy, etc.
Let's face it, you are not really going to struggle with life if you possess a total self-assuredness, and your response to danger is naturally "bring it on!".
Ego problems may be the cause behind a lot of anxiety related disorders such as depression. True, these disorders are often brought about by a person's environment, eg loss of a job during a recession and you can't afford your mortgage, or being abused as a child etc, and depression in particular is regarded by some as a "force for change" - a strong warning that something in your life needs to be change immediately - but why is it that some people simply cannot seem to cope, where others just can? Why do some people develop depression after a loss, or GAD when under threat?
It is my belief that the ego has a massive role to play in our mental health. If we unconsciously believe that we are worthless, we are vulnerable, we are going to suffer, people won't accept or like us, we are going to fail because we lack talent etc, we are basically on a collision course with fate: something will eventually happen that we feel unable to cope with, and that's when disorders develop.
If you're reading this and it sounds like I'm talking about you, you definitely have issues with your ego, and you might find that these are not only the original source of your current illness, they also act as rocket fuel for the illness once it has taken over.
So where does this leave us? Well, for a start it explains a number of things, not just about your current condition but about many things throughout your life. Do you feel alone and friendless? Maybe you pine to have friends and be out in the world, but you just can't hack it? Maybe you just can't face starting something new in case you fail and get laughed at, or when you do start something new you spend so long trying to get it perfect that your own hobbies exhaust you rather than relax you. Maybe you're scared to talk to the opposite sex in case you're rejected.
You have a negative belief system. (You might call this an inferiority complex if it relates entirely to a sense of worthlessness in relation to others and their work.) A negative belief system generates negative thoughts, which in turn generate negative feelings and negative behaviour. Over time, this can grow and complicate, until negative thoughts run rampant, destroying your confidence and in extreme cases, your will to do anything, maybe even live.
Every time the expected outcome does happen to you - so you do speak to someone you fancy, but they tell you to sod off, or you cock it up completely and make a fool of yourself - it reinforces your negative belief system. You believe it even more completely. You are even less likely to try again in future. You become even more trapped, you suffer even more distress, and have actual physical proof that your negative beliefs are valid.
A more serious problem is how negative belief systems are self-reinforcing. You make the feared outcomes happen. You may be so convinced that other people won't like you that your behaviour pushes people away. You are so convinced that you don't deserve to be in a relationship that your partner gets fed up of your clinginess and constant requests for reassurance, and you split up; or you just don't get together with anyone. You constantly pass up chances for happiness and change because you don't believe good things can happen to you, and that nothing good does ever happen anyway.
So, you fear that you will always be alone because you are somehow cursed or repugnant, but it is your behaviour and attitude that drive other people away or prevent them from getting close to you.
You curse the world, you curse fate and most of all you curse yourself, never knowing for one minute how things can be any different.
Unhelpful treatments for ego problems and negative belief systems
Cue a trip to the doctor's for some counselling and medication! Unfortunately, your doctor doesn't have a clue what's "wrong" with you, and it may be several weeks before you get any kind of help, during which time your self-sustaining condition deteriorates.
You might get antidepressants, which can help you to feel better in general, but they don't fix the core beliefs or the ego problems which made you ill in the first place. There is the issue of side effects, which can make you feel worse for a while at a time where you desperately need some relief.
You may get counselling, which can get your life back on track and improve things considerably, but unless you have an exceptionally talented, perceptive and/or qualified counsellor, the counselling might not go deep enough. Person-centred counselling gives you a wonderful opportunity to vent, but it doesn't get into the ego, the id, mental defences etc, it won't really go into your past, and it can make you reliant on the counsellor (yet another ego issue which this article will discuss at some point). It will tell you what you need to change about your thinking and behaviour, but it won't tell you how.
Also, the NHS or your country's equivalent may only offer a limited number of sessions which may have a long waiting list. This is the BANE of people who need help quickly but have to wait for protracted periods.
Why do people not recover, or suffer from a relapse?
It is my belief that people who don't recover, or who recover and subsequently relapse, have not identified or successfully dealt with something that is central to the problem.
Even if a person was working diligently to change for the better, they might still relapse, so how does that work? Well it's the same thing with "treatement resistant" depression, where people have tried between 3 and 6 different therapies and medications but are still depressed. If you read research into this, medication treatment has significant drop-out rates, which means people are giving up on the medication for some reason.
It may be that most people who give up on meds do so as soon as the first side-effects hit, and the side effects don't disappear within the first few weeks. In some cases, and I have been stupid enough to do this, people reduce or drop their doses when they have been feeling better for a while, or they run out and can't be bothered to get an immediate replacement prescription. Going "cold turkey" from medication has a very high probability of causing a relapse into the illness. Even missing a few doses can put you back several weeks.
I'm not going to be arrogant and say everything I just said above applies to everyone. At this stage, there's no way to know why some people simply don't respond to medication or therapy. You should bear in mind that 80% of people who suffer from depression recover without any treatment at all, because they develop adequate coping strategies: exactly the sort of thing we can't do - yet.
Medication seems to be the first line treatment for anxiety and depression, although some modern research shows that a lot of sufferers could be cured without medication if their illness was treated quickly enough with the appropriate therapy. We all know someone who knows someone who's been on antidepressants for 14 years. Maybe some people do need them for years, but if you think about it, do you really believe that if you received appropriate therapy and worked every day on your recovery skills, you will need treatment for that long?
How is medication going to change the fact that at your core, you are a naturally nervous person who developed a deep-seated inferiority complex? It can paper over those cracks, but it you've ever felt like there's a "toxic energy sump" inside you, draining your vitality and confidence away into a bottomless vortex, this means that behind the scenes you have a negative belief system that is in action even now, even though you can't consciously hear it or see it.
Filling the void: Changing your negative belief system
This is the bit that will require commitment on your part. By commitment, I mean you must be devoted to it, you must put effort and work into it, you must put serious consideration into the causes of your problems. You must be prepared to spend weeks working on it to see the slightest benefits; you must understand and accept that if you've had problems all your life, it is may be a couple of years before you have resolved all of these problems and "internalised" the new way of living.
Internalising something means accepting it as a true part of yourself. At the minute, if someone calls you names, you accept that what they say is true because you already believe it yourself. You are allowing your negative belief system to be reinforced.
A few weeks or months further down the line, if someone calls you a name, you are going to be able to simply shrug it off, and maybe even think "Who does that moron think he is?" If you start a new project, you may not have total confidence, but the thought of failure will be motivating rather than daunting ("If I fail, who cares, I'm not doing this to prove anything to the world, I'm doing it because I love it and I'll give it a bloody shot!").
Life is like a game of tennis. Life WILL hit you in the face with the ball until you learn to return its serve.
= More to follow =