Connor_cbt
10-05-12, 10:12
In another thread i mentioned a book that i am reading from my course and
something that really rang true was about the self and the problems we create
when we deviate from it.
If you imagine a pure self the 100% you thinking, feeling, behaving all
working together with no discrepancies then that is how your natural being
was meant to function, that is how every other species in the animal kingdom
functions. Our society however requires us to modify our behaviour in order
to rub along with everyone else. We have developed ethical/moral, social,
cultural legal and even religious standards that require us to keep our
behaviour in check.
The benefits of this are obvious and without these concepts there would be
chaos.
I'm not saying that we create a fake persona in order to deceive others, but
we often hide our thoughts and feelings for a plethora of reasons.
Problems arise when the outer-self becomes so incongruent with the true self
that they cannot be consolidated.
And it seems like problems with anxiety can often be traced back to this
conflict but it takes a lot of peeling back those layers which is often a painful
process, to find a point where we are able to reconcile the two.
This is at least my understanding/experience of it and i wondered if maybe
this would strike a chord with anyone else?
all the best,
something that really rang true was about the self and the problems we create
when we deviate from it.
If you imagine a pure self the 100% you thinking, feeling, behaving all
working together with no discrepancies then that is how your natural being
was meant to function, that is how every other species in the animal kingdom
functions. Our society however requires us to modify our behaviour in order
to rub along with everyone else. We have developed ethical/moral, social,
cultural legal and even religious standards that require us to keep our
behaviour in check.
The benefits of this are obvious and without these concepts there would be
chaos.
I'm not saying that we create a fake persona in order to deceive others, but
we often hide our thoughts and feelings for a plethora of reasons.
Problems arise when the outer-self becomes so incongruent with the true self
that they cannot be consolidated.
And it seems like problems with anxiety can often be traced back to this
conflict but it takes a lot of peeling back those layers which is often a painful
process, to find a point where we are able to reconcile the two.
This is at least my understanding/experience of it and i wondered if maybe
this would strike a chord with anyone else?
all the best,